re: Would this still ANNOY you?

Quoting KNZ.:" We seriously JUST started talking again this afternoon, and i would've said something but i don't have the energy to get into again right now. I just don't even get how his brain tells him it's okay."

dude you seem happier when you aren't around him  

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Super annoying. NOPE. Put a lock on the man cave.

Yes VERY ANNOYING, my SO is the same way, only he is addicted to playing poker on his tablet. I want to grab that thing and stomp on it some days, lol. But he works super long hours so I kinda try to be understanding. It sucks though because he's gone so much I barely see him, then when he is home he has his nose stuck in that thing.

So this is honestly my major worry about my little one arriving. It truthfully did not bother me as much the last year because we have been married for a few years and I knew this before we got married but I hope he want's to spend a little more time with our son then his games when he is born. Example today: He had a super long day at work 5 a.m. to 6 p.m. then came home I made him dinner and offered to scratch his back and watch a movie with him. He said no no he had to catch up on Halo before his buddies got off and that could be soon (his "buddies" stay on til like 1 in the morning). Anyways this is a typical day even when he works his normal 8 hour shift especially when new Halo stuff comes out. Anyways sorry for the long un-needed story. Yes I would be annoyed no doubt. Already a little bit am and LO is not even here yet.

Quoting ×ø×K·ßear×ø×:" yes it would annoy me. if he wants to watch it that bad wait til the kids are asleep.. i mean spend time with them before the new one arrives because then itll even be that much harder to do anything!"

EXACTLY.
uuuuugh
it's just extra annoying cos nothing i say will get through to him. like, he honestly believes this is 'okay' cos he's not playing his game  

He is shirking his responsibility as a husband and father. That is beyond annoying.


Should my kids have to take care of themselves since my dh and i both work, therefore "earning" alone time.


Smurf that mamma. It is time to grow up!

Quoting Mother of Broccoli.:"   Please dump his ass. That would piss me off."

Ugh   that's really where my head has been at lately, but it's really just not realistic.
My mom came over for the day and we were baking stuff with the kids (of course he wasn't part of it) and she was telling me that i need to just let some things go with him,
but like...i DO...and that's been the problem.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Chelsea Dawns Mama:</b>" Take the mouse. Tell him he can have it back when he makes an effort to spend time with his kids."</blockquote>




This! Or put a padlock on the door. I would be fuming.

Quoting pilot Jess:" He is shirking his responsibility as a husband and father. That is beyond annoying. Should my kids ... [snip!] ... take care of themselves since my dh and i both work, therefore "earning" alone time. Smurf that mamma. It is time to grow up!"

Doesn't that reasoning just like, blow your mind?
In my head, since he's been away for a good part of the day, he should WANT to be around them.

Quoting BabyTime! 8/29:" Yes VERY ANNOYING, my SO is the same way, only he is addicted to playing poker on his tablet. I want ... [snip!] ... It sucks though because he's gone so much I barely see him, then when he is home he has his nose stuck in that thing."

See, even if he was obsessed with something that had him around us more- i'd be less frustrated, (but still frustrated haha) but like, the kids won't even remember he's home cos he's a floor away and absent.

<blockquote><b>Quoting KNZ.:</b>" I hate it. We've had family over for dinner and he's been rude enough to go down there WHILE they're here & about to eat.... he's 32 years old, and i feel like i'm dealing with a bratty teenager."</blockquote>




Thats ridiculously rude.

Mine sits in the other room while we have company..even when his own mother is here!

What really pisses me off..is when he zones out on the tv in the livingroom when he is supposed to be watching our infant who is cruising furniture. I feel like all I do is bitch. Its frustrating and exhausting.

We have all been there and I am just glad Dh waits until the kids are in bed to play his games. But I have told him it would be nice if he spent some time with me as well

Quoting KNZ.:" Doesn't that reasoning just like, blow your mind? In my head, since he's been away for a good part of the day, he should WANT to be around them. "

If he doesn't then he isn't worth being with.

Quoting KNZ.:" Ugh   that's really where my head has been at lately, but it's really just not realistic. My mom came ... [snip!] ... of it) and she was telling me that i need to just let some things go with him, but like...i DO...and that's been the problem."

Some things are easy to let go of or ignore, but not spending time with his family isn't something that would slide by me.

Quoting KNZ.:" So, imagine three stories, life happens on the 2nd story, dude/dad's game room/man cave is in a corner ... [snip!] ... kids finally, then went back down saying "one more episode before bed". Am i being crazy, or is this seriously just annoying. "

It would be. my husband used to be the same. We worked through it and now he only plays video games at our sons nap or bedtime.