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Quoting Michael Westen:" Under the photo I would have commented saying "No, his name is ____________""

Seriously.

I'd just say, "Listen....His name is _______, not _________. He doesn't need to be confused.

it would annoy the hell out of me just tell her plain out how you feel and that you chose his name for a reason

Quoting Mrs.Rachael +2:" I think Jeremy needs to be the one to talk to her. You can play nice and day that you don't want him ... [snip!] ... and say "we chose this name because we love it, please be respectful and use it. Sucks girl, and yes I would be pissed too"

Thanks. I think I'll try that first but if it doesn't work I'll just have to be honest and say it pisses me off. Jeremy doesn't like it either but he won't say anything because he's afraid of upsetting her.

Quoting MonkCakes:" yeah that would deff piss me off lol OT OP but ur family is so so cute!!! lol"

Thank you!  

It wouldn't annoy me per say but I would be upset if I didn't call my child by his middle name. You named him what you did for a reason. And this is coming from someone who calls her child by a shortened version of her middle name.

Quoting HopingforaMiracle:" It wouldn't annoy me per say but I would be upset if I didn't call my child by his middle name. You named ... [snip!] ... him what you did for a reason. And this is coming from someone who calls her child by a shortened version of her middle name."

Yeah if he were older and wanted to be called by his middle name then I wouldn't mind at all. I think the reason it annoys me so much is because I know she's doing it just to get at me for not making him a Jr. DH and I didn't want to but she kept bringing it up the whole pregnancy, no matter how many times we said we weren't going to.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Maddie♡Alex:</b>" Yeah if he were older and wanted to be called by his middle name then I wouldn't mind at all. I think ... [snip!] ... DH and I didn't want to but she kept bringing it up the whole pregnancy, no matter how many times we said we weren't going to."</blockquote>




Yeah it would upset me. Now if he decides when he's older to be called by his middle name then it would be ok

Oh yeah. DDs bio dads mom REFUSES to address her last name, because I didn't give her BDs last name, she has mine. She will mail stuff with BDs last name on it and it gets returned. I told her to stop and now she sends it to Elliana Jade, with no last name and it.still get returns. So now she puts c/o vivian (me) to make sure it gets to me.

And I go by my middle name, have for 9.5 years now and mt dad still calls me by my first name, and mails stuff like that,.and it gets returned too. Ugh

So you've already talked to her about it and she is still refusing?
As someone else suggested, I would be saying "His name is Alexander, not Jeremy. This is our child, and we named him Alexander because we love the name. You don't get to change it just because you didn't get your way and it doesn't suit you." Maybe add on "Did anyone tell you that they didn't like the name Jeremy when you named DH? It's hurtful to me that you don't respect our decision."
And then every time she says Jeremy, I would be correcting her.

OT, but we did the same thing for our son (gave him his father's first name as his middle name). Our son's name is Wesley Alexander. And he actually was almost a Jeremy Alexander.  

Quoting HopingforaMiracle:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Maddie♡Alex:</b>" Yeah if he were older and wanted to ... [snip!] ... Yeah it would upset me. Now if he decides when he's older to be called by his middle name then it would be ok"

Yep, that's actually what a lot of people in my family ended up doing. Very few go by their first names.

Quoting MommyToWesley:" So you've already talked to her about it and she is still refusing? As someone else suggested, I would ... [snip!] ... father's first name as his middle name). Our son's name is Wesley Alexander. And he actually was almost a Jeremy Alexander.  "

We've told her a few times we would like her to use his first name because it's what we chose and it's important to us. She just keeps calling him Jeremy though and I really don't want to be nasty about it. I like your idea, maybe that will help her understand why I keep pushing it.

Love the name Alexander  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Maddie♡Alex:</b>" Yep, that's actually what a lot of people in my family ended up doing. Very few go by their first names."</blockquote>




Yea which would be fine. I just chose to use Ariadne as a first name because Iove it but I also love Lucy

Quoting Vivian [♥]:" Oh yeah. DDs bio dads mom REFUSES to address her last name, because I didn't give her BDs last name, ... [snip!] ... have for 9.5 years now and mt dad still calls me by my first name, and mails stuff like that,.and it gets returned too. Ugh"

I also go by my middle name, have since about 6 and my dad still wants to call me by my first name at times. lol

That's exactly what she does to my SIL but backwards. She did give her baby the father's last name and she always puts down their last name when talking about that baby. It drives my SIL insane.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Maddie♡Alex:</b>" Well she's really just doing it because she didn't get the name that she wanted us to use. No one calls him by his middle name but her."</blockquote>

So?
No one calls DS Jobie Wobie but me...a nickname is a nickname.
Like I said, at least it's part of his name

Quoting Michael Westen:" Tell her if she can't call him by his actual name then she doesn't get any actual time with him."