Thanks ladies!

I absolutely understand your feelings, but if she's your friend, I wouldn't say to write off the friendship because she's in a relationship with someone you don't like.

Have you tried to talk to her about him before, and does she know about your history? I don't think ignoring her is the right way to go about this, especially if she's your friend.

If her relationship is some sort of trigger for you regarding your past, I think it's healthiest to avoid it/her/the situation...

This will be hard for any of us to really tell you what is the right thing to do. Try talking to her about it and then go from there. You need to do whatever makes you feel comfortable. If being around that is bringing up feelings from your past you don't need that.

I think you're kind of a smurffy friend for being "meh" about him giving a smurfing child meth and NOW being upset because of a very minor similarity between them and your rapist, but whatever.

If you're her friend you should stick with her and support her and try to get out of what sounds like an abusive relationship.

Quoting The Doctor:" I absolutely understand your feelings, but if she's your friend, I wouldn't say to write off the friendship ... [snip!] ... she know about your history? I don't think ignoring her is the right way to go about this, especially if she's your friend."

She was upset when I told her he wasn't allowed at my house ever again. And I mean, I thought we were better friends than we are. She stopped wanting to hang out with me because Frank was pissed because she was hanging out with my boyfriend and his best friend and I, and accused her of cheating.

These days it just feels like she's more my friend because I give her rides to school and back. That along with my revelation is making me want to close our friendship.

Quoting ag iompar clainne (18w):" I think you're kind of a smurffy friend for being "meh" about him giving a smurfing child meth and NOW ... [snip!] ... If you're her friend you should stick with her and support her and try to get out of what sounds like an abusive relationship."

Yeah, she refuses to leave. Believe me, we've ALL tried to get her leave. There really isn't anything we can do, she's an "adult" now, and she's going to make her own decisions.

Quoting Mj's Crazy Mama♥:" She was upset when I told her he wasn't allowed at my house ever again. And I mean, I thought we were ... [snip!] ... my friend because I give her rides to school and back. That along with my revelation is making me want to close our friendship."

In that case, I think you should say that to her.

I understand feeling used, and that's not what friends are supposed to be. I would, at least, give her some explanation to ending the friendship, though, if that's what is best for you!

Quoting .chele.:" If her relationship is some sort of trigger for you regarding your past, I think it's healthiest to avoid it/her/the situation..."

Thank you for that. I think I will just stop giving her rides and do my best to ignore the feelings if I happen to see her at school.