re: is this wrong?

Quoting Mystique Lee:" Her dad has tried to talk to her and me as well..he even asked the Auntie to talk to her he sees her ... [snip!] ... she does .he brought it up to me again this morning that's y I'm asking because he seems more worried now about her doin this"

I would stop over-thinking it. Kids are curious, and sometimes when you don't want them near you, they want to be near you, and sometimes when you want them near you, they want to do their own thing.

I also think getting upset at her is not going to help her curiosity. It's natural.

Quoting Mystique Lee:" Her dad has tried to talk to her and me as well..he even asked the Auntie to talk to her he sees her ... [snip!] ... she does .he brought it up to me again this morning that's y I'm asking because he seems more worried now about her doin this"

I'm not too clear on what you're saying... you all think someone is touching her? Doubtful... curiosity =/= molestation. There would be MANY other signs if she were being molested, including aloofness, anxiety, extreme temper tantrums, etc.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mystique Lee:</b>" Her dad has tried to talk to her and me as well..he even asked the Auntie to talk to her he sees her ... [snip!] ... she does .he brought it up to me again this morning that's y I'm asking because he seems more worried now about her doin this"</blockquote>




Speak English please

then you guys need to sit down with her and ask her if her moms boyfriend has touched her or done anything that makes her uncomfortable around him.

Quoting The Doctor:" I would stop over-thinking it. Kids are curious, and sometimes when you don't want them near you, they ... [snip!] ... near you, they want to do their own thing. I also think getting upset at her is not going to help her curiosity. It's natural."

 

I haven't gone to the bathroom by myself in two years.

Quoting Tyletta:" then you guys need to sit down with her and ask her if her moms boyfriend has touched her or done anything that makes her uncomfortable around him."

She wants to be near her dad, or is curious....

So you should ask her if her mother's boyfriend is abusing her?

No. And leading questions are a no-no (IMO). And I like rhyming.

I don't think anyone is touching her. Her dad is the one thinking he even asked her if anyone was. I told him I don't think the mom wouxld let anyone hurt her in any way. I wanted to ask what you guys thought because of the fact he got upset wit her and was blaming it on someone touching her. I can tell him to talk to her about more and that noone is touching her.that it is normal for some kids to be more curious. That all I wanted to know..

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" She wants to be near her dad, or is curious.... So you should ask her if her mother's boyfriend is abusing her? No. And leading questions are a no-no (IMO). And I like rhyming."</blockquote>




Thank u I'm going to tell him that he should maybe do that..cause I'm just the step mom its not my place to step on toes..he asked me all this this morning and he seems worried and has been worried about her for the past year now ..thank u for not jumping down my throat about this that's y I asked is this wrong..? Thank u again .

I could see where this is odd. Me personally I would definitely over analyze it because I just think of the possibilities of a child being sexually touched. And I think that it is odd since at an early age you would want to teach our child that those areas are private and only the doctor can look at them with mommy or daddy there and if anyone touches you, you come tell an adult. I would not think that she is curious about the opposite sex because boys and girls know that they are different. Especially considering that she has brothers and everything she is well aware. If she is not with her father constantly I can see why she wants "see him" but she's got to understand that, that's just not okay. And to wait figuring taking a shower and getting dressed can be minimized to about a half hour while she is there.

Quoting Jesseca Wilfong:" I could see where this is odd. Me personally I would definitely over analyze it because I just think ... [snip!] ... not okay. And to wait figuring taking a shower and getting dressed can be minimized to about a half hour while she is there."

They know they are different, so they aren't curious?



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<blockquote><b>Quoting º×ß¡±©µ×º:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mystique Lee:</b>" Her dad has tried to talk to her and me as ... [snip!] ... morning that's y I'm asking because he seems more worried now about her doin this"</blockquote> Speak English please"</blockquote>




I can't understand what you're trying to say...

I didn't want to over think things. Are say ppl where doing bad things to her..I didn't know what to think so I wanted to ask what other ppl thought..he feels uncomfortable that she always tells him. "I wanna see u" at those times ..I don't know what to tell him n I don't know y she says that at those times..I don't want him to get to mad at her but I feel its more his place to tell her that its not right for her to see him at those times.

I wouldn't worry about it too much.



My own son will basically ignore me when we're all out in the living room and stuff, he's very independent, but the second I try to shower or go to the bathroom he is ALL over me, I haven't gone to the bathroom by myself in several years, lol. I would just make it a rule that when ANYONE is in the bathroom, no one is allowed to go in - don't make it about dad, just explain that everyone needs private time and when people are in the bathroom, that is private time. My son is too young to really understand this concept yet, but at 6, she might understand.

Quoting LolaMcKitten:" I wouldn't worry about it too much. My own son will basically ignore me when we're all out in the ... [snip!] ... the bathroom, that is private time. My son is too young to really understand this concept yet, but at 6, she might understand. "

I agree with all of this.

<blockquote><b>Quoting LolaMcKitten:</b>" I wouldn't worry about it too much. My own son will basically ignore me when we're all out in the ... [snip!] ... the bathroom, that is private time. My son is too young to really understand this concept yet, but at 6, she might understand. "</blockquote>



Thank u that is a good rule..cause he got mad at her once for going in there wen my son was using the bathroom but I just told him not to get mad to talk to her cause she will think she is in trouble and not understand. But that is a great rule and will start using it as well as tell tell I think he will be happy wit that too