My best friend is dating someone I don't like...

I have a guy friend and I am quite close to him. We work together. Well, he started dating a chick that I absolutely think is horrible for him and will only do more harm than good. He JUST got out of a 3yr relationship with a girl I didn't mind, but now it's a different girl. I am beside myself thinking about how this new girl could possibly make things worse and because he is my friend, it's bothering me. I told him I just care about him, but now I feel it's going to effect our friendship. How do I move on past this? :-/

Why don't you like her? Why do you think she will be horrible for him?

my bff ALWAYS dates people i don't like. in past experiences, i would try telling her and she wouldn't listen and tell me to let her be happy. then whatever i told her would end up happening, would happen. i just keep my mouth shut now and deal with it. her relationships, not mine.

Sounds like u may have feelings for ur friend

Do you have a thing for him or something?

Chances are she's a rebound and won't last anyways.

Honestly, I don't think it's your place to really say anything... I hope that didn't sound mean,but it's his relationship, not yours.

Quoting bbbt:" Why don't you like her? Why do you think she will be horrible for him? "

I went to highschool with her so I know quite a bit about her. She is always in trouble, drugs, drinking, partying, etc. beyond the norm. She has a lot of emotional issues and I'm afraid she'll drag him down with her. And while I care a lot about BOTH of them, I don't feel they're good for eachother. He's still not over the previous girl friend so I feel he's jumping into this relationship out of insecurity and that's it. I'm just worried for him.

It'll most likely hurt your friendship. You just have to go with it and hold your tongue if you are right and it doesn't work.

Quoting Christina143:" Sounds like u may have feelings for ur friend"

No, I don't. I'm just good friends with him and don't want to see him hurt.

Quoting Avian's Mommy!!:" Honestly, I don't think it's your place to really say anything... I hope that didn't sound mean,but it's his relationship, not yours."

I happen to agree with you and that's why I am seeking advice on here and venting. I'm trying not to talk to him about it.

Quoting I♡C.:" I went to highschool with her so I know quite a bit about her. She is always in trouble, drugs, drinking, ... [snip!] ... previous girl friend so I feel he's jumping into this relationship out of insecurity and that's it. I'm just worried for him."

Just put yourself in his shoes. Just out of a three year relationship, hopping on with the first person to give attention. It's probably a rebound and won't work out.

However, maybe she's changed. I'd give her a chance.

Quoting Rd.:" Do you have a thing for him or something? Chances are she's a rebound and won't last anyways."

I don't have a thing for him. I just look out for him as he does me. We're just really good friends. That's all. I sure hope she's just a rebound and won't last for long. I just know when she does move on to the next guy, he'll be hurt again and it'll hurt me.  

My advice:

Mind your own business. You don't know what kind of relationship you could potentially be ruining.

So you're 21 now and you knew her back in highschool? A lot of years have passed by and people grow up & change.

Eh, it's rebound I probably wouldn't say anything...until something she does affects his life in a negative way.

My best friend had a knack for finding all the wrong girls for a while, and it was annoying because I'd tell him she's just going to hurt you, it's not worth it. But he wouldn't listen and he'd come running to me every time another girl would break him heart. Except for when we were both living in his parents house...only time he didn't have any type of "girlfriend."

The only time I didn't really say anything was when he came home after boot camp and was busy chasing tail (his long time girlfriend at the time had sent him a Dear John letter, I was so mad at her! Seriously, he's gone not even 2 months and you already can't keep it in your pants, anyways that's a different story) which eventually led him to Cheyanne. He was so busy dealing with her needs (emotional mostly) that he didn't have time for himself and he was suppose to be mostly resting (he broke his femur), he was pissed when I told him she was nothing but bad, and not even like just bat smurf crazy bad, but she was dragging him along on her hurricane of hell. Even more pissed when I sent him a picture of her and her ex playing tongue wars at a party I was at.

That's why I say don't say anything until something she does affects him in a negative way. Rebounds are important, IMO. If anything, it'll teach him what he doesn't want, if she hasn't changed at all. OR it'll work out because she has changed. I was that girl in HS/there directly after, and now just a few short years later I'm one of the most responsible independent 20+ years old I know.