Now today is my second anniversary and last nite we got into a big arguement that i still feel so bad about now all i can think about is am i not worth it to have a great anniversary. this morning i got up very early and made his favorite breakfast he didnt want to get up and eat it while it was hot and when he did eat it he never said thank you. now like i said i still feel bad about the arguement so i had no sleep last nite. now he's flipping out about the fact that no one wants to stay home to watch the kids so he can take me to see a movie. it took me a while to think about all of this but from everything i do for this man through everything we have been through all day today he didnt have to do nothing but all i am worth is just a movie? so i am asking myself should i just keep quiet and see what he has in store or should i tell him how i really feel beccause he thinks im crying happy tears and really im feeling horrible about everything thats been going on in our relationship. to make things worst he left to go to one of his friends wedding and he said it better than staying home with kids all day but im the one that stays home all day everyday cooking abd cleaning while my doctor is stresssing the fast that i need rest and need to stay off my feet. ladies i do love this man with all of my hurting heart.

I think you're having deeper issues than a movie being the only thing he's doing for your anniversary.

Do you think a movie should be the reason you finally say 'that's it'?

That's what DH and I do on our "special days" and I'm absolutely fine with it...I love going to the movies with him.

Have you guys thought about counseling? Have you told him that you're feeling unappreciated?

i would be happy he's doing anything for you at all.

What do you want from him? I don't know why taking you to a movie wouldn't be nice enough for you. And honestly do you want to fight again? If something is seriously bothering you, talk to him but i say don't sweat the small stuff. It's not worth getting all worked up over.

Men think differently than women do.

Honestly, I make all of the birthday/anniversary plans in our relationship. Not every guy is super romantic. I would be thrilled if my husband decided to take me to a movie for our anniversary!! Our last anniversary my husband was on a company fishing trip lol.

Quoting iLL-Legal Alien:" I think you're having deeper issues than a movie being the only thing he's doing for your anniversary. ... [snip!] ... going to the movies with him. Have you guys thought about counseling? Have you told him that you're feeling unappreciated?"

no i never told him i dont every say anything

i honestly dont care what my SO does for me on our special days. just as long as we get some alone time away from our daughter even just for an hour means alot to me.

i think you should just be happy that he's actually going to do something for you, no matter how small it is to you. It's better than nothing.

Quoting melindapple:" What do you want from him? I don't know why taking you to a movie wouldn't be nice enough for you. And ... [snip!] ... is seriously bothering you, talk to him but i say don't sweat the small stuff. It's not worth getting all worked up over."

i do everything for him without saying anything i just want more and better because if i was taking him to the movies he would flip out like someone is killing him

Quoting MrsBrunson:" i do everything for him without saying anything i just want more and better because if i was taking him to the movies he would flip out like someone is killing him"

So be like, "maybe we can leave a little earlier and go to dinner. i'll try and help you find someone to watch the kids."

Quoting MrsBrunson:" no i never told him i dont every say anything"

That's your first mistake. A marriage is all about communication: knowing how and when to do it.
If you are constantly on his ass and complaining about something...that's not good. But keeping things bottled up and not saying anything is just as bad.
He is your husband. You have vowed to be with him, to give your soul, your body and your love to him. Why wouldn't you be able to talk and have a heart to heart to the person you plan to spend the rest of life with?

Men think so much different than women do...and it would be awesome if they could read our minds but they don't. And half the time, we send mixed signals to them...like when they ask "are you ok?" and we say "yes, I'm fine" but on the inside we're not.

Men can also be very black and white about things...if you're not saying anything is wrong, then nothing must be wrong. So you need to bring it up to him, tell him how you're feeling, tell him what you want!

Like I said, I think this is a lot deeper than just a movie. You guys need to work out your dynamics.

He's not a mind reader. Nothing will change unless you tell him how you're feeling. Keeping everything in is probably a big reason why you guys are fighting so much. You're not wrong because you feel the way you do, but he's not wrong for not automatically knowing. Just try talking to him.

i break my back to give him the best what ever he wants or ask for i give it to him with no problem i do everything for this man and i just get the left overs from when he gets back from his friends everyday he would rather stay with his friends then be home with me like i do know is that his friends are coming with us to the movies today he pays for them to get in but i have to pay for myself

Quoting MrsBrunson:" i break my back to give him the best what ever he wants or ask for i give it to him with no problem i ... [snip!] ... i do know is that his friends are coming with us to the movies today he pays for them to get in but i have to pay for myself"

you are really overreacting, and you should talk to your husband instead of bottling it up inside. if you allow him to walk all over you, he will.

Our anniversary is Halloween. So we never get to do anything on our anniversary. It's been 5 years this year, and he wasn't even here. He's deployed.
I'm not miffed that we don't do anything on our anniversary. We knew it would be that way, specially once we had kids.
When we do have dates, dinner and a movie is what we do. Or we go for a ride on the bike.
I also stay home all day, and cook and clean and do laundry. I don't expect more from him than 'just a movie'

Quoting MrsBrunson:" i do everything for him without saying anything i just want more and better because if i was taking him to the movies he would flip out like someone is killing him"

Well, i wouldn't necessarily freak out on him over him taking me to a movie, that's just me though. Instead, maybe if he did little things for you more often it would be better? Or even take a load off of you, since you say you do everything for him? But you need to tell him that you are feeling unappreciated for doing everything, before he can change. I feel like the reason I wouldn't care that DH just takes me to a movie is because he DOES do little things for me, and helps me out (at least once in awhile), so i don't expect him to make up to me an entire years worth of doing stuff for him all in one day. KWIM?