I'm terrified of gender disapointment.

First off, I'm so grateful for this pregnancy and know I will love my child whether it's a boy or a girl. And please don't go on to say I should just be happy because there are many other women who can't have children - believe me, I love this baby SO much. However, I find out the gender on November 30th. My whole family is rooting for a baby girl because there are only 2 female grandchildren (including me) and 9 males. As far as great-grandchildren go there are currently 2 males. The closer I get the more I worry that I'll be having a boy and that my reaction will be bad....
Is this irrational?
I feel like such a terrible person when I think about it. :/

it's not irrational, and i hope you can be excited either way. how about you don't find out the gender? that would be even more fun!

You will love that baby no matter what. I thought I would be disappointed if I was having a girl...I ended up having a girl and she is the absolute best thing I my life and I wouldn't want it any other way now.

You might initially feel a little sad, but that passes.

Nope! I am feeling the same way and it is so hard! I know i will be happy regardless as long as my baby is healthy but i already have 2 boys and my sister just had a baby boy so there is sooooo much pressure for a little girl!

I was on the opposite side of the fence as you. My whole family wanted a boy, literally, and I'm having a girl. It makes me so angry that they said "well, we'll love her just as much."

.... Yeah, after you get used to the disappointment, I wanted to tell them. But I didn't. The heart wants what it wants. Doesn't always get, though. Keep your head up and move on. It's not so much disappointment in the child, I think, as disappointment in the change of your expectations.

I was afraid I'd feel this way, we went through infertility so I knew I'd love my baby no matter what but I really wanted a girl. I now have two boys and I am so happy with that! My family was disappointed but that's ok, I love my boys

The sex will be decided by the guys sperm so it really doesnt matter what boy/girl ratio you have in your family, it wont affect the baby. Dont worry though, they wont be disappointed. Just cuz theyre hoping for one doesnt mean theyll be any less happy with the other.

Not at all!
I was hoping for a boy. On DH's side and mine, females are dominant. There's ONE boy out of 8 grand babies . We found out we were expecting a little girl and I gotta admit, I was disappointed . I got over it pretty quickly though. I'm very excited to be having another princess!! Plus my DD gets her little sister  

Thanks! Nobody ever mentioned this to me so I didn't think that this feeling was kind of normal.
I think it's just all the pressure that my family is putting on me to have a girl. haha. I know everyone will be just as happy either way, it's just that I know I want a girl, too.
And I was thinking about not finding out the gender but it would drive me MAD if I didn't, so I feel like I have to.  

Not irrational. I felt that way bout both girls I didn't wanna think of having a boy, picking names, none of that mess. This time... I want a boy so much that trying to think of girl names or looking at girl stuff makes me want a drink. I'm hoping I'm 3 for 3 but terrified I won't be. Ur not alone its common to want one gender over the other. I'm doing extra stuff to get excited in case it is a girl maybe think bout doing the same? Either way u know ull love ur baby regardless so no worries there!!

Quoting Momma +2 Girls:" The sex will be decided by the guys sperm so it really doesnt matter what boy/girl ratio you have in ... [snip!] ... worry though, they wont be disappointed. Just cuz theyre hoping for one doesnt mean theyll be any less happy with the other."

Oh I know how the sex is decided, of course. It's just how my family feels. It's not like they would blame me or the baby it's just that we have a ton of boys in our family.

It's normal to be disappointed, but when baby is here everyone will just be happy regardless of gender. Both my family and DH's family all have girls, so it will be the end of the line with DH's last name if we do not have a boy. My fathers last name is already gone, unless my youngest sister has a baby boy (gives him dad's last name, and not the father). Everyone was hoping for a boy, but we had a girl. I was stuck on having one, and even bought a boy outfit (before we knew the gender). All in all, everyone was still as excited after we found out the gender.

<blockquote><b>Quoting JiLLiAN.:</b>" it's not irrational, and i hope you can be excited either way. how about you don't find out the gender? that would be even more fun!"</blockquote>


 
You wont have time to be disappointed and the anticipation for 9 months will make it exciting either way!

I wanted a girl really bad and we got a boy. I thought I was going to be really dissappointed too and I kinda was when we found out but my husband and mom made tons of jokes about it being a boy and that started to make me feel better. I still sometimes wish it was a girl but whenever i do I just look at my cute boy things and think about how cute a future female child will look wearing her bros hand me downs.

I wanted a girl (as did DH) desperately. We are just days/weeks away from having another boy. Happy, but we would still prefer to be having a girl. We're very happy that we had a son first.

Makes it even harder that I'm not happy with any of the names we have picked and just think "If he were a girl he'd be named 5 months ago!"