re: How would you handle this situation?

Quoting ~~My Pet Wussy~~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting KNZ.:</b>" I want to. That's what we did the first night of ... [snip!] ... with my oldest,(he's my middle sons dad) and I let it slide. Eventually, it got worse and my oldest son was really hurt by it."

It makes me angry cos he blames me for it.
When we were together a few years ago, he wanted Carter to call him dad. (carter doesn't have a dad in the picture) I said no, cos we were too unstable, and i didn't want carter losing a 'dad' when he could just lose a jason instead.

After that, he started distancing himself from carter (this is prior to Clara's birth) claiming that i pushed him away from Carter but not letting him call him dad  

i thought this time around things were different, but, i just don't know.

Quoting £egendary £ex:" he yelled at Carter for no reason? wow... yea dude idk, I would have lost my smurf on him. That's not cool."

Yeah, Jason was in the kitchen, the football game was on in the living room, Carter came into the kitchen and turned his little v-tech thing on, and was scrambling to turn it down, so instead of just helping him out with it, or asking him to relocate or something...he YELLED at him that he couldn't hear his game.  

<blockquote><b>Quoting KNZ.:</b>" It makes me angry cos he blames me for it. When we were together a few years ago, he wanted Carter ... [snip!] ... Carter but not letting him call him dad   i thought this time around things were different, but, i just don't know. "</blockquote>




Gah, that sounds so similar to our situation.  

Quoting KNZ.:" There was CRAZY things in that book too...like, we were told to see a counseler during our custody stuff, ... [snip!] ... crap that 1. wasn't true. 2. wouldn't even hold up in court if it was. It was just, upsetting. And the book is still here. "

I'd be pretty smurfing pissed. My ex did that when I had PPD really bad (like he saved all the text/facebook messages he thought were "questionable" to use against me if he felt like it). Honestly, if I were you, I'd probably consider leaving him for good. As much as it may suck, you shouldn't put yourself through so much stress with 2 kids and another one baking

Quoting ~~My Pet Wussy~~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting KNZ.:</b>" It makes me angry cos he blames me for it. When ... [snip!] ... around things were different, but, i just don't know. "</blockquote> Gah, that sounds so similar to our situation.  "

  i feel stuck cos of baby three coming & everything i gave up to be in this relationship again. (our old place, finishing my BA for now, etc)
I thought that if we could get through everything we've been through the last few years, we could get through anything  

Quoting Mother of Broccoli.:" I'd be pretty smurfing pissed. My ex did that when I had PPD really bad (like he saved all the text/facebook ... [snip!] ... him for good. As much as it may suck, you shouldn't put yourself through so much stress with 2 kids and another one baking"

That's messed up  

I honestly don't know what i'd do though. My parents put my house up for rent (we were living in a place my dad had designed/owned while i was still in school) So i wouldn't have that, i wouldn't have a job/way to afford a job just to pay for day care (and child support's been canceled), and there's just no way i could go through all the court stuff AGAIN with out like, dying from stress.

<blockquote><b>Quoting KNZ.:</b>"   i feel stuck cos of baby three coming & everything i gave up to be in this relationship again. ... [snip!] ... I thought that if we could get through everything we've been through the last few years, we could get through anything   "</blockquote>



Yeah, it's a hard spot. But, it may be easier to end things now rather than later and a lot less hurtful for carter.

Quoting KNZ.:" That's messed up   I honestly don't know what i'd do though. My parents put my house up for rent ... [snip!] ... been canceled), and there's just no way i could go through all the court stuff AGAIN with out like, dying from stress. "

Ugh that is really stressful. I was staying in my previous relationship because it was just easier, like I couldn't get a job just for daycare and had no place to live. Hopefully he gets over himself soon so you don't have to deal with this anymore!

Quoting KNZ.:" Yeah, Jason was in the kitchen, the football game was on in the living room, Carter came into the kitchen ... [snip!] ... just helping him out with it, or asking him to relocate or something...he YELLED at him that he couldn't hear his game.   "

whatta smurfer  

thanks ladies <3

Quoting Mother of Broccoli.:" Like someone else said, I'd go somewhere else for a while if it's possible. Just get out of the negativity for a couple days and try to relax without having him around waiting for an apology."

 
good advice.

sorry he's still being a dick kenz 

Quoting la vie est belle ♥:"   good advice. sorry he's still being a dick kenz "

  thanks.
i'm extra mad cos we can't even have sex for awhile, so it's like, we seriously have nothing with each other ha

i'm sorry you are going through that.. it would really upset me if my husband yelled at our son like Jason did to Carter I honestly will say follow your heart I know you love your kids more than anything and you will do what is best for your family.

my parents arent together and my step mom and step dad always treated me different and it made me sad and i felt unwanted and out of place like i didn't belong and i wasnt good enough..

as to what i would do tell him that it is not okay and he needs to say sorry to isaiah and the game can wait or for him to go to another room if its that important. my husband isnt stubborn like jason he will always say he was wrong and apolagize to my son and i.. my husband knows that i will never tolerate him treating one better than the other.. i know he says our daughter is his pride and joy and is always buying her things and i will say what about Isaiah? were is his toy? and he says well he doesn't like toys anymore.. true.. but still he could have gotte him a book etc kwim..