How To Choose God Parents...?

**WARNING** Kind of long!

I have been thinking about this a lot lately & have had a few people ask me if they could be, but I really don't know who to chose. My aunt is one, I am the godmother of her three children. But when I think her caring for my child if something happens to me, it kind of scares me. She loves her kids, but her life is so unstable. She yells at them a lot & doesn't really pay attention to them during the day. They get out of their carseats & she just lets them jump around the car while she is driving. I mean her kids are taken care of, but she slacks off a lot now that the youngest has turned three. But I feel like since I am her kids' godmother, I kind of owe her. You know?


The other is my bestfriend Chelsie. We have been friends since sophomore year. I trust her, but she still has a lot of growing up to do. She just recently got engaged & is planning on starting college soon (so that's a big step). She just wants to be free & start her new life with her fiance. He & I don't hate eachother but we don't like eachother either (does that make even sense), so if they do end up getting married & something does happen to me...I doubt he would be down for caring for my son. She is very wise with her money though & very responsible overall, like I said she just wants to be free. But at the same time, she really really wants to be his god mother.


I'm so torn, I love them both to death & I don't want to hurt their feelings. But it's a tough decision. How did you ladies know who you should choose?

<blockquote><b>Quoting coℓton's mama. «3:</b>" **WARNING** Kind of long! I have been thinking about this a lot lately & have had a few people ask me ... [snip!] ... both to death & I don't want to hurt their feelings. But it's a tough decision. How did you ladies know who you should choose?"</blockquote>



Maybe u should just tell them for now ur not looking into any god parents and when ur ready u will let them know

I chose my best friend. She is the only one that has stuck around since I found out I was pregnant. However, if something were to happen to me and my Holden's father couldn't care for them, they'd go to my mom.

We pick DH oldest brother and his wife. DH little brother was pretty bummed (he actually asked). But the way we saw it they were a more stable couple they have been married for 3 together for 7 years and also a little more mature. We just said sorry we already picked and told them. He was sad but got over it quickly. He was just happy to be an uncle.

What are the requirements set out by your church?

your kids do not need god parents. I would just drop the subject as the idea is pretty outdated and you don't have good options.

I'm am a Catholic and think that being a God-parent doesn't make you the legal guardian over your God-children if anything happen to the parents, A legal document would have to be drawn up for that to happen. I'm going to be a God-mother on Sunday to my friends son, to me it means that I am a part of his life, I'm his "Gummy" God Mummy   I feel that part of my job as a God Parent is to assist his parents guide him on his spiritual/religious path. I feel very honoured that my friends asked my husband and I to stand as God-parents, You might want to ask your Aunt and your Friend what they believe the role of being a God parent is and why it is important to them to be your childs Godmother.

Thank you for your input ladies  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Angelina'sMama:</b>" I'm am a Catholic and think that being a God-parent doesn't make you the legal guardian over your God-children ... [snip!] ... your Friend what they believe the role of being a God parent is and why it is important to them to be your childs Godmother."</blockquote>




That makes a lot of sense. I never actually looked at it that way.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Angelina'sMama:</b>" I'm am a Catholic and think that being a God-parent doesn't make you the legal guardian over your God-children ... [snip!] ... your Friend what they believe the role of being a God parent is and why it is important to them to be your childs Godmother."</blockquote>




This is what a god parent is not a legal guardian in the case of tragedy. What ever you choose just discuss it with the person who will be the guardian and get a will drawn up there is no need for drama people tend to get really bent out of shape

You can give them the title of "god parent," but you still have to have a legal will stating who your child/children will go to if anything happens to you.

My parents will be taking my son and any other children, should my husband and I die. My sister is next on the list.