question about miscarriages

Found out I was pregnant on Monday of this week. Wednesday, I went in to the ER for spotting and they did the hCG quantitive. They also did a pelvic exam (closed cervix, no blood on cervix), and a pelvic ultrasound (saw a gestational sac, wanted to rule out ectopic). I went back in, as directed. They did another hCG quantitive, and 2 more pelvic ultrasounds. My numbers dropped from 167 to 107. On the first ultrasound, the ER doctor said he saw something else in the sac, but sent me up to ultrasound to get a better one. The radiologist said he didn't see a pregnancy.

How long will it take for me to miscarry? My cervix is closed. I'm spotting, somewhat, red blood. I have a follow up with OB on November 21st. I've never had a miscarriage before, so I'm looking for advice on what to expect and generally how long it takes. My symptoms haven't even started to go away. The only symptoms I had with my daughter were sore breasts, and that's all I have now, and they still hurt preeeeetty badly.

I'm pretty confused at this point, and would like any and all input.

Thanks

Oh no, I'm so sorry to hear this.   It's hard to say how long it will take. I've had 3 and one of them took a month. If you weren't very far along, it will probably just feel like a heavy period. Again, I'm sorry. PM me if you ever need to talk

I'm okay, but thank you. I figured it would happen. I hadn't had my period for 2 months, got it on 25 September, and then got pregnant. I knew something was off from the get go, so I prepared myself

ETA: They say I was 7 weeks, but I don't think I was that far along. When I conceived my daughter, I thought I was 11 wks 6 days by LMP, and I was over two weeks off of that. And that was calculating with how long my cycles are (usually 35 days). They were using 28 days for this pregnancy.

went to the er for the same thing when I was pregnant the first time around. They told me everything was fine but needed to follow up. When I went to my ob they said the fetus and sac were shrinking, so I was on my way to losing it. They said I could either wait it out, and see what my body does and how it will react, or they could write me script to get things going, in order to not prolong the pain and suffering. Mentally and physically. I was only 8 weeks, but it still hurt like hell. Just being honest. Not trying to scare you. She wrote me a script to start the process of a miscarriage and also a pain med. When you follow up, see what they say. Maybe ask about the med that starts the process if it is going to miscarry. I'm very sorry to hear this. I know it is very tough. Good luck with everything, I hope all gets better. PM me if you ever need some support.  

Quoting SammyS18:" went to the er for the same thing when I was pregnant the first time around. They told me everything ... [snip!] ... hear this. I know it is very tough. Good luck with everything, I hope all gets better. PM me if you ever need some support.  "

Thanks. I expect the physical pain. My husband has his Marine Corps ball on Sunday. We have a daughter, and they told him he doesn't have to go. I told him if it is too bad, and I start to miscarry then I would like him to stay home. Pre Juliana, I use to have periods that were so bad, I would have to wear an extra super tampon and pad and still bleed through that every hour or so, at least the first two days. Cramps were horrendous, and sometimes, if tylenol extra strength and Midol didn't work, I would have to take off work and spend the day curled up in bed with a heating pad. I dunno how this pain is going to be, I am not looking forward to it. Just want it over and done with, so I can move on, and my husband and I can start trying again when I'm allowed to.

Quoting GoldenGirls:" Thanks. I expect the physical pain. My husband has his Marine Corps ball on Sunday. We have a daughter, ... [snip!] ... it. Just want it over and done with, so I can move on, and my husband and I can start trying again when I'm allowed to.

It feels like an EXTREMELY bad period cramping. It sucks. I spent the whole time either on the couch with a towel under me, and my biggest, thickest pad on possible, or in bed the same way. Heating pad definitely helped along with the pain med. I wasn't allowed to use tampons during the whole process. The worst of it lasted about two or three days, but the bleeding continued for a while. It got lighter after about four or five days for me. But who knows, things could always be different. I hope whatever happens it will all go good for you, and there can be another one in a few months or so. I just look at it as I have an angel baby now. It helped me to cope with everything. And just a few months later, I am pregnant again, and this pregnancy is going great! I am so nervous about little things, but every time I get to see him/her or hear the heartbeat I'm reassured. So I hope and pray things will work out for you and your husband just as well.

Quoting SammyS18:" It feels like an EXTREMELY bad period cramping. It sucks. I spent the whole time either on the couch ... [snip!] ... him/her or hear the heartbeat I'm reassured. So I hope and pray things will work out for you and your husband just as well. "

We hope it works out too, next time. I have to look at things logically. Everytime I think "angel baby", and that I won't be able to feel kicks with this one, or anything, it upsets me. So I just think of the medical aspect. The miscarriage is early, the embryo isn't even developed completely, it has nothing to make it a fetus yet. It's too early to see a heartbeat anyhow. If I think of it like that...I can at least pull myself back from the situation emotionally, and save myself that heartache. DH and I had been trying 9 months, not long, I know. We both really, really wanted this.

I understand these things happen, but man, it sucks. Big time.

Quoting GoldenGirls:" We hope it works out too, next time. I have to look at things logically. Everytime I think "angel baby", ... [snip!] ... months, not long, I know. We both really, really wanted this. I understand these things happen, but man, it sucks. Big time."

So true. I was the same way during the process and a lil while after. Now that I am finally pregnant again, I feel ok with accepting it as an angel baby. But trust me, it took months to get to that point.

<blockquote><b>Quoting SammyS18:</b>" So true. I was the same way during the process and a lil while after. Now that I am finally pregnant ... [snip!] ... I am finally pregnant again, I feel ok with accepting it as an angel baby. But trust me, it took months to get to that point. "</blockquote>


I just want it to be over with. I am still only spotting, more than before, at least. I now have cramps. Just want it done. I think the process of it is more emotionally draining for me than anything.