Quoting Jude the Super Kinkster:" Be honest and DO NOT QUOTE PLEASE! DH and I might be going to the bar together tomorrow night and he ... [snip!] ... sometimes even violent. Am I being a bitch? I feel like I'm being controlling but I'm really scared of him when he's drunk. :/ "
you're not being mean and controlling.. you're being safe...
my question to you is.. if you don't want him to drink.. why are you going to a bar?
so you can drink?
lead by example. if he's a mean drunk, then stop drinking alongside him.. if he sees you drinking and you're banning him from it it'll just make him resent you..
why not go to a nice restaurant & enjoy a date?
bars = drinking + drunks
there's no escaping that logic lol.