Try to explain to them why your not comfortable with going there, if they were real friends they will understand and respect you by choosing a different place

Quoting Lin Brown:" Try to explain to them why your not comfortable with going there, if they were real friends they will understand and respect you by choosing a different place"

Er, no. That's crazy. I would never ask 20 people to reschedule their plans for us.

If that's the case, why even go and put yourselves in that situation? DH and I used to go to bars together when we first started going out but we ALWAYS ended up in terrible fights. Finally we decided we couldn't do the bar scene cos it just wasn't worth it.
Are your friends going to eat and drink or just drink?

Quoting NevviesMom:" If that's the case, why even go and put yourselves in that situation? DH and I used to go to bars together ... [snip!] ... we decided we couldn't do the bar scene cos it just wasn't worth it. Are your friends going to eat and drink or just drink?"

Mostly eat, tbh. But we have to sit on the bar side because our party is so big.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jude the Super Kinkster:</b>" Mostly eat, tbh. But we have to sit on the bar side because our party is so big."</blockquote>


If no one else is drinking, there'll be no reason for your husband to drink.

Don't feel bad. It doesn't make you a bitch. Stand firm on it.