SO came home for lunch a little bit ago, and me and both of the kids were sleeping. So he woke me up and asked me to make him lunch, and I said ok, I would. Well apparently I didn't get up fast enough, because he started slamming smurf around in the kitchen and woke the baby up, so I had to get up anyways.

So instead of starting a pointless argument with him, that would leave me feeling like smurf, and him pissed off and not talking to me, I got on a computer game that I play, and was venting to a friend of mine. My friend happens to be a guy, and we have been playing together for months. Seriously JUST friends. Well SO comes in to give me a kiss before he leaves to go back to work and I changed screens so he wouldn't see what I said. Well he got suspicious, and asked me 50 questions about the game to the point where I couldn't avoid going back to the game screen.

In the vent all I did was explain what SO had done, and my friend replied with "why can't he make his own lunch" and I said "well that's my AMAZING boyfriend (HUGE amount of sarcasm there)"

He saw it and got PISSED, told me he was changing the password on the game, deleting my friend, and locking up the computer to where I can't get on it unless he comes and gives me the password for it. Then proceeded to call me an ungrateful bitch for talking down about him when he puts a roof over mine and the kids heads, and food on the table. And he pulls the "I thought I could trust you" card.

I know I shouldn't have said it but come the smurf on... I have to vent to SOMEONE because he wont talk to me about anything.....

wow wtf.... someone is on his mensies big time >.< Are any of the kids his? Cause it's kind of his job to put a roof over their heads lol

He was totally out of line DENYING you access to the computer or game, that is total bullsmurf and he is insane to think that's going to fly. Don't even get me started on waking you up to make him lunch! I have no patience for manchildren. And no, I'm not a bitch, I make my SO dinner and lunch every day without hesitation and quite happily. Because he treats me well and wouldn't do crap like that. But I sure as hell wouldn't if he was being a dick  

You both sound childish as smurf.

I think her seriously over reacting. He treated you like a child, and why COULDN'T he make his own damn lunch? Dick.

Wow, what a smurfing dick. He could and SHOULD have just made his own damn lunch. He seems ungrateful for what you do for the household and all that it entails anyway since he just takes it upon himself to wake you up to make him food.

He woke you up to make him lunch?? Wtf. Is he 2? Can't make his own lunch? And this is coming from someone who makes her fiance lunch (when he's home) and dinner...but he'd never wake me up to make him food when he very well can do it on his own.

And of course you're allowed to vent...he just sounds like an ass. I can understand him being upset about what you said but to throw such a fit is stupid.

Wow, what a douche. Like seriously. He sounds really controlling.

And if you really just explained he woke you up to feed him and then woke the kids up slamming things, he had no where to be pissed seeing as THAT IS WHAT HE DID. If my SO knew half the smurf I said when venting to my friends about him his head would smurfing explode

Who the smurf voted that op was selfish and being a bitch?

I really don't know how much longer I can deal with him. It's just one thing after another, and I never say anything because I don't want to start an argument. And yeah the youngest his. And keep in mind, his job is to sit on his butt all day and take 1 maybe 2 phone calls, and then he either watches his kindle or plays a card game with his friends. While I am at home cooking, cleaning, and taking care of both kids... I make him lunch EVERY DAY, and I make him dinner every night. He just doesn't get it.

You both have issues. Yes.. it was disrespectful to trash talk him to a friend.. ESPECIALLY another man. he's a controlling ass for trying to tell you what you can and can't do.

why were you sleeping at noon? like.. napping or still sleeping? he was home on a lunch break... you should have either said no.. or moved faster. He was on a break. I'm assuming it wasn't unlimited time.

I'm assuming by him saying he puts a roof over your head... that you don't work? I guess I'd be pissed too if I came home from work, and my SO was home sleeping, said she'd go to lunch with me but didn't, then trash talked me to another guy.

Quoting MommaSav2:" Who the smurf voted that op was selfish and being a bitch?"

I did. but only because they're both smurfing children wasn't an option.

If you feel the need to quickly hide your computer screen... you ALREADY KNOW you're in the wrong.,

Quoting snglemama:" You both have issues. Yes.. it was disrespectful to trash talk him to a friend.. ESPECIALLY another man. ... [snip!] ... home from work, and my SO was home sleeping, said she'd go to lunch with me but didn't, then trash talked me to another guy."

She never stated she was going to lunch with him or intended to. She just said her and the kids were sleeping, probably napping since kids are exhausting, and he came and woke her up to make her food. Pretty petty.

<blockquote><b>Quoting snglemama:</b>" You both have issues. Yes.. it was disrespectful to trash talk him to a friend.. ESPECIALLY another man. ... [snip!] ... home from work, and my SO was home sleeping, said she'd go to lunch with me but didn't, then trash talked me to another guy."</blockquote>




Most people tend to nap while their kids are napping.... its not a bad thing. And why can't a grown man make his own lunch?? She never said she would have lunch with him.. he came home, woke her up and demanded she make lunch for him. The only thing I see wrong with the situation is her hiding her computer screen. That's it

I was taking a nap because the baby was up all night, and of course he has never gotten up with her, so it's all me all the time. And he gave me like 30 seconds to get up before he started slamming smurf. He has a 60 minute lunch break and works 5 minutes away....