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Quoting Vanilla MILFshake.:" I post about my sex life a lot, so please forgive me but this has really been weighing on my mind a lot ... [snip!] ... in a marriage, but it is important. Everything else is fine between us, but it doesn't seem like this will ever get better."

My bfs the same way... Idk what to do or think about it either!!!

Honey, I don't know what to say. =[ Sex IS an important part of marriage, it's the ultimate bond. I know you've already tried talking but I would just say keep at it....I think you guys may need counseling. There could be something going on with him emotionally that he's not even aware of that's keeping him from being intimate. Do you guys ever have like, just conversations? How old is he? Have you thought about trying to have date nights or something like that? I really wish I knew what to say to help. =[

I understand completely me and OH have been together 2 years the sex was great to start with he could go for hours now i have to ask for it and all i get back is that he is tired and when we do do it he just satisfies himself saying that it takes to long to satisfy me i talk to him openly but when he hears something he doesn't want to he ignores me or goes to sleep

  I dont know.My husband is not romatic at all but he wants sex all the time. I wont give it up though. With pregancy and other things. I really dont know what to say. I do love your AVI though!!

Men don't seem to realise it's upsetting it takes a big hit out of our self confidence makes us feel unattractive and unwanted

Quoting Chroma Hex [+1]:" Honey, I don't know what to say. =[ Sex IS an important part of marriage, it's the ultimate bond. I know ... [snip!] ... is he? Have you thought about trying to have date nights or something like that? I really wish I knew what to say to help. =["

He's about to be 23. We have conversations a lot not just about these issues either, but I can't tell you how many times I have talked to him about all of this. He lost him job a while back and lost his insurance through them. He recently started a new job but he doesn't have any insurance yet, so if we did do any kind of counseling it would have to be after he gets insurance and that's if he will even agree to it then. We never really go on dates, but the most recent times we have went out together it's been us just going in to eat, not really anything interesting...we literally eat our food and leave, then go back home. Even when I've tried to plan romantic things for us myself, he doesn't want to go along with it or something comes up.  

Quoting mamaluvsher4babies:"   I dont know.My husband is not romatic at all but he wants sex all the time. I wont give it up though. With pregancy and other things. I really dont know what to say. I do love your AVI though!!"

Thanks! Lol!

Quoting adorkaboo:" Men don't seem to realise it's upsetting it takes a big hit out of our self confidence makes us feel unattractive and unwanted "

Yeah and when I tell him about it, it just seems like he doesn't take me serious and realize how much it really hurts me. It drives me crazy!

My husband is like this. I finally told him I Absolutely can not be in a marriage with no intimacy of any kind. He then realized how important it was to me. We still are not perfect but I atleast get hugs now.

Quoting Buzz and Almond Joys momm:" My husband is like this. I finally told him I Absolutely can not be in a marriage with no intimacy of ... [snip!] ... with no intimacy of any kind. He then realized how important it was to me. We still are not perfect but I atleast get hugs now."

I've even told DH things like that before. I was really upset about it a few days ago and told him if he couldn't take my feelings into account and change things then we would be talking about a divorce. This has been going on for a long time and it's really taking a toll on me. I love him and want to be with him forever, but I don't want to be with someone that would make me feel like this for the rest of my life.  

If you are unhappy, and he is unwilling to work towards making you happy, and seems like doing anything for you is a chore, then it's time to call it quits. Marriage or any partnership is about giving each other everything to be happy as a couple and move forward in life. Other wise you are simply just roommates.

Quoting MysticWitchKat:" If you are unhappy, and he is unwilling to work towards making you happy, and seems like doing anything ... [snip!] ... about giving each other everything to be happy as a couple and move forward in life. Other wise you are simply just roommates."

I agree. I really wish there was some way I could get through to him and he would change, but I really don't think that will happen. I just don't want to give up on our marriage like this...it's killing me either way.  

Quoting Vanilla MILFshake.:" I agree. I really wish there was some way I could get through to him and he would change, but I really ... [snip!] ... I really don't think that will happen. I just don't want to give up on our marriage like this...it's killing me either way.  "

You in the end have to be happy. If you aren't happy, and he isn't willing to work on it then it's time to walk. The thing is....that might SHOCK him into realizing he needs to change. And if not he's not worth spending the rest of your life with.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Vanilla MILFshake.:</b>" I've even told DH things like that before. I was really upset about it a few days ago and told him if ... [snip!] ... want to be with him forever, but I don't want to be with someone that would make me feel like this for the rest of my life.  "</blockquote>




And you can't feel that way for your life. It's hard to feel unwanted.