Was he right?

So I'm a SAHM and SO works 4pm-1am unloading trucks for wall mart.


Well he thinks.that since I stay home that its my responsibly to wash his smurf. Like he had no clean socks today so.he got all pissy with me and started yelling and smurf. Um really? I.get that I should since he works and I don't but I think it was smurfed up.that he yelled at me over it.

Pointless post I am just upset. He doesn't appreciate anything I smurfing do but when I forget to do it he sure as hell notices.

Yes, you should absolutely do things like laundry. It's really unacceptable to run out of something like....socks. I would have been pissed too.

On the flip side, if you feel he doesn't appreciate you then talk to him about that.

I would try to get on a schedule for laundry, to be fair. If you're home all day everyday and he isn't, laundry is a good thing for you to be doing. Or- maybe get him some extra socks so this doesn't happen again?  

Well, if you are home all day, it make sense that you do the wash

I mean, he cshouldn't bitch at you, but what do you do if not take care of the house?

i would smack his ass if hed yell at me for anything.


but in one way i do get him, if i would be working everyday and my SO would be at home taking care of the kids and the house, id expect them to wash my clothes once id out them in a basket.

SO is the same way when i forget something, but when he does it, he acts like he deserves a cookie or something  

ETA: He only works 3 days a week, not every day.

To yell at you? Absolutely not.
I tell my SO that if he doesn't put his dirty smurf in the laundry then I don't wash it and he can do it himself. It got to the point where he'd just leave his dirty clothes on the floor in the bathroom and I stopped picking them up and washing them, he finally figured out that if he wants clean clothes to either put them in the laundry room or wash them himself. He's a grown ass man, putting smurf in the washer isn't rocket science.

I would be pissed to if I didn't have clean socks.

But he shouldn't have yelled at you like that.

It's understandable though that he would get frustrated because working long shifts during the night would wear at my nerves too. Men usually aren't good communicators. Just apologize and move on because it's not really anything to argue over. Have his stuff washed for when he comes home and maybe make him a nice meal? Either way, it sounds like you two need some time to just spend together.

I think its your responsibility. Wouldn't you be mad if he wasn't doing his job? I feel your job is to do household duties if u want to stay home.

I understand why he got pissed. You're a SAHM/house wife. His job is to go out and work and your job is to care for your child and be in charge of the upkeep of the house, that includes laundry.

He has plenty of socks but had to buy long ones for work because he was getting blisters. Well he only has 2 pairs of long socks so its not like I.just let the smurf pile up for weeks.

DH and I used to have this same fight about no socks. I told him I would wash whatever clothes were in the dirty clothes basket but I wouldnt chase them down. I'm not his mother OR a slave.

Quoting Emma Stone-♥-:" He has plenty of socks but had to buy long ones for work because he was getting blisters. Well he only has 2 pairs of long socks so its not like I.just let the smurf pile up for weeks."

Damn I would have raged too.
Hand wash those smurfers if you can't buy anymore. Poor guy.

Quoting Emma Stone-♥-:" He has plenty of socks but had to buy long ones for work because he was getting blisters. Well he only has 2 pairs of long socks so its not like I.just let the smurf pile up for weeks."

DH has 3 pairs of long ones that are his faves. i try to make sure that when he wears them, i throw a load of laundry on right away when he takes them off. that way, i know they get washed.

but he shouldn't have YELLED at you, i'd be upset