Quoting Kayla: mommy of 2 (::" Would it be beneficial to try to put her in daycare to see if she does learn to socialize a bit more? ... [snip!] ... her to feel like she is fighting for attention or to get pushed around by other kids if she goes to a daycare. im so lost :/"
Do you have a birth to 3 agency in your area? We have one where we live and they can go over all these concerns with you - they go through a development process and to watch the child and see. According to DH, his oldest son (who is now 12 and has aspergers) was noticeably different right away. He didn't socialize, was very hard to control, but he also did not show affection/compassion or talk til he was 3. Sometimes as parents though we often compare our kids to the other kids around us - some kids just develop at different times and the kid ends up being completely fine. Sometimes if you take them to daycare, the staff may be able to tell you what the child is like during the day with other kids and they have probably seen it before with other autistic children and they may be able to give you some answers or insight. Otherwise, I would see about that birth to 3 agency. Our daughter got seen after she was hospitalized with meningitis and they just wanted to make sure she was back on track developmentally. Good luck OP!