re: STRIP CLUB!

Quoting *Expecting #3*:" I use to work at a strip club when I was 18.... (Its not something I liked doing, I just needed fast ... [snip!] ... girl more attention so she doesnt get too jealous, but if that guy comes in without her.....its a whole nother' story!!! haha"

Blah, if my SO decided to go to a strip club with his friends, I'd still be okay with it.

You see, I know there are men who take off their wedding rings, get blow jobs and screw women at strip clubs... oh, and did you know they do that at clubs and even work too? Yeah, if you are with a cheating bastard, doesn't matter where he goes, he will still be a cheating bastard.

I trust SO. If he cheats on me he loses me.... I'm not going to restrict the areas he can go to in order to "make sure" he doesn't cheat because that's unrealistic.

Also, the way we manage money, we pay the bills, buy the food, add to savings and all that responsible stuff, and then my daughter has an allowance, and so do I and so does SO. I can do anything I want with my "allowance", get my hair done, buy new clothes, blah blah blah... and he can do anything he wants.

But.. seriously, strip clubs here are actually pretty gross, and SO has no interest. Though we did have drinks in a brothel once, but we seriously didn't know it was a brothel until one of the prostitutes started hitting on my (virgin) friend! lmao (Tip, never play truth and dare with a hooker... especially while drunk!)

Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" Blah, if my SO decided to go to a strip club with his friends, I'd still be okay with it. You see, ... [snip!] ... started hitting on my (virgin) friend! lmao (Tip, never play truth and dare with a hooker... especially while drunk!) "

LMAO thats a great way to look at things and its a great thing he has no interest in going!! Yes, there are faithful men out there but a faithful man, like your man, has no interest in going because yes cheaters can be at work or where-ever, thing is.... when he puts himself in situations to be tempted its just not right, he shouldnt even go someplace to put himself in a situation like that ( ofcourse work and things you cant help it he just has to keep his mind on business) but at strip clubs you literally put yourself in that situation because there are bare naked titties floppin around everywhere.... if the man doesn't cheat I still don't want to be with a man that's gonna smurf me while thinking of the strippers tits/ass he seen earlier that night ;)

Quoting *Expecting #3*:" LMAO thats a great way to look at things and its a great thing he has no interest in going!! Yes, there ... [snip!] ... still don't want to be with a man that's gonna smurf me while thinking of the strippers tits/ass he seen earlier that night ;) "

If SO's friends wanted to go, and they insisted on him going, I'd tell him to just go... I see no issue with it.

But, I don't see an issue with porn either, so maybe I'm just weird!     

I don't see an issue with porn myself (my SO and I watch it together) unless the guy has a serious addiction that affects his day to day life, but i find porn different than strip clubs because at your local strip club he can easily grow a fixation on a girl and easily try to pursue her one day, not because they're not faithful...but because a fight could happen and he could run off to the strip club, get drunk and get very very tempted because she is right there, ready and available to cheer him up and maybe more and thats when the next day he is possibly regretting something.... so thats why i say, just not a good idea, i dont care if he more worried about his friends getting mad that he wont go with them than apparently he doesn't care if you care or not, which is a concern too.... but some people just dont care ya know, thats fine, good for you i hope he does stay faithful..... just me personally dont like the idea.