re: my 4 year old is extremely "strong willed"

My child is only 2 but I believe she is going to be JUST like your daughter   she was horrible (and I hate to sound mean) as a newborn and infant, it wasn't until she started being able to communicate that she became a lot easier. You def can't trick her or get anything past her though..I heard three is hard so it will be interesting to see how the next couple years treat me lol.