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<blockquote><b>Quoting Spookshow Baby☠:</b>" On August 31st my mom had a brainstem stroke. While in the hospital they ran a bunch of tests on her; ... [snip!] ... she is, could it be nothing? ETA; If you had a family member with lung cancer could you please share your story with me?"</blockquote>




IDK the answer to your question but this story makes me sad... IM sorry you're dealing with this...  

My aunt had it. She smoked until she went into a coma and eventually passed. She would have an oxygen mask on and a smoke hanging out of her mouth.   She couldn't even hold her head up and still smoked. It used to make me so mad that her kids would light it for her and hand it to her.  

It could be nothing, but I'm not going to get your hopes up- and also, I'm so sorry.



My SIL's mother died of lung cancer and hadn't smoked in years.


Hopefully it was caught early- that can be key.

It's luck of the draw honey. Some people are crazy chain smokers and do not get cancer. They just don't have a strong genetic predisposition to it. Others get exposed to low level second hand smoke and get the cancer.

You will just have to wait and see.

Her continuance of smoking is rather foolish though. When you are dying of cancer you don't die happy you die a painful excruciating death. If you are lucky enough to know what's caused the cancer, then you have an opportunity to cease and desist so that your chances of survival and successful treatment will be increased.

Quoting S U Z I E:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Spookshow Baby☠:</b>" On August 31st my mom had a brainstem ... [snip!] ... IDK the answer to your question but this story makes me sad... IM sorry you're dealing with this...  "

The the plus side my mom is recovering pretty good from the stroke. She left the rehab center after 3 and a half weeks. She did home therapy for about a month and now she goes to a therapy center. Her speech is back to normal, it took about a month. Her left side is still weak and three weeks ago she stopped using her walker. She still has some balance problems but she's doing very well.

I just wish she'd stop smoking. This whole experience has been a nightmare, health wise and family wise.

my partners a heavy smoker, hes tried so many times to quit but yet he does not seem to give it a good go, i dont know what its like to be a smoker i never smoked.
Anyways we had a scare a while back he had lumps in his neck we thought it was cancer due to his smoking, he worries about it constantly he always talks about death i hate it, the lumps were not cancerous thank god" he is still smoking though. Maybe really talk to you rmum about this" go see the doctors together " if she does not wanna hear nothing of it i guess you gotta leave it. Im sorry this sounds so upsetting to go through

My grandfather was diagnosed with lung cancer a week before I was even born. He had quit smoking 10 years prior. After an long process of treatment after treatment he was finally free of the cancer when I was almost 2. When I was 15 it had come back. Again he did the treatments and got horribly sick. They told us he wouldn't make it more than 6 months. He fought long and hard for 3 years(shocking the hell out of the doctors) before once again being free of it. He was healthier than ever. Happy and strong. It was like he was in his 20s again. His lung cancer was once again detected right before my 22nd birthday. He started the treatments but they made him sicker than ever before and he started refusing treatments and said that if he was going to die he wasn't going to die like that. They told him he had 3 months. He made it almost a year before he passed away July 2011. He had gotten pneumonia and was already weak due to the cancer and it was too much for his body. He had a hard 23 year battle with cancer but enjoyed his time.

Quoting Stinky Face's Mommy:" My aunt had it. She smoked until she went into a coma and eventually passed. She would have an oxygen ... [snip!] ... even hold her head up and still smoked. It used to make me so mad that her kids would light it for her and hand it to her.  "

That will be my mom. She will smoke until she dies. She stopped smoking for a whole month, when she returned home she kept telling me how bad her house smells. Her two friends who also help out with her smoke, they started buying cigarettes for her. I mean if my mom is dying and she really wants to keep smoking who am I to stop her?

I know she'll have another stroke again too, she's not eating the way she should. She's not watching her fat and carbs. I just hate sitting back watching this. I made a list of food she should eat but she sticks with her unhealthy food.


You know my relationship with my mom, I have such mixed emotions right now. You also know everything that I posted about my uncle, if she dies what is done with her body and the money will turn into a war. I'm not ready for any of this.

My pepa had lung cancer. I was 8 when they told me and 9 when he died. It will be 11 years this month. I remember watching him start getting sicker and sicker. One day he couldnt walk anymore, couldnt sit up, couldnt eat. I saw him everyday cause my grammie kept him at home once he got on hospice. I watched him die everyday but I told him he wasnt going to. This man was my father figure. The cancer eventually spreaded to his brain. It was the most traumatic thing I went through as a little girl. I still can hear the scream his sister made when he finally passed, it was horrible. I just saw him 5 minutes before he died. He was skin and bones barely breathing. I miss him everyday. I miss watching tv with him or waiting for him to get home from work. I miss seeing the nasty black licourish in the fridge. I miss his laugh, his smile. I was young but I can remember everything except for the lasy thing I said to him.

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Thats us. I think I was about 6.

But im sorry that your going through this. I tell all my family that smokes to stop since we watched him die from that.

Quoting Spookshow Baby☠:" That will be my mom. She will smoke until she dies. She stopped smoking for a whole month, when she ... [snip!] ... about my uncle, if she dies what is done with her body and the money will turn into a war. I'm not ready for any of this. "

I know hun, it is SO hard. I wish it were easy to make them stop.

I don't know a lot about specific details. My grandpa passed away from lung cancer, it really sneaks up on people and the unfortunate thing is it can spread really fast. They told him he'd have like 6 months to live or something with how severe his lung cancer was (and that was just when he first found out), but it spread really fast and he passed away a lot sooner, unfortunately.  

Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:" It could be nothing, but I'm not going to get your hopes up- and also, I'm so sorry. My SIL's mother ... [snip!] ... so sorry. My SIL's mother died of lung cancer and hadn't smoked in years. Hopefully it was caught early- that can be key."

I'm sorry for your family's loss.  

Since they're waiting to see if there's any growth I'm going to assume it's in the early stages if it is cancer.

Quoting Safka9973:" It's luck of the draw honey. Some people are crazy chain smokers and do not get cancer. They just don't ... [snip!] ... then you have an opportunity to cease and desist so that your chances of survival and successful treatment will be increased."

I think her continuing to smoke is foolish too. Especially since she had a stroke. My mom lives in an ignorance is bliss world. I've tried telling her it will be a horrible painful death, she doesn't care. DH's grandma had several strokes before she died.. After each stroke she would lose her speech, then she was unable to walk.. We tried talking to my mom about that, she doesn't want to listen. All my mom says is "I had a small stroke I'm fine, I'll be fine." Her father died in February from a brainstem stroke.

Quoting Sami&Baby Silas:" My grandfather was diagnosed with lung cancer a week before I was even born. He had quit smoking 10 years ... [snip!] ... weak due to the cancer and it was too much for his body. He had a hard 23 year battle with cancer but enjoyed his time. "

That makes me hopeful! I'm sorry for your loss.
Although I have a strained relationship with my mom I'd like for her to see my children grow up.