Quoting Akeema:" Sorry about the typoes on my phone. I am so not overreacting it is a tattoo permanently attached to ... [snip!] ... back. Herrors marked her tattoo staring at me and he can get it removed or covered up. I'm not asking him to cut his arm off."
Do you know how smurfing painful tattoo removal is? And it's a bad scar. Pending what it is, covering it up can be costly and painful. You ARE overreacting, it happened when you were apart, and if you're going to hold smurf from when you two were separated against him, then maybe the relationship wasn't going to work anyhow.
If it wasn't a name, then there's no reason you'd have known until you found that facebook pic.