re: your husband or your child/ren?

Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:"    "

 

But yea I agree w/ part of what she said, like if I'm chilling w/ my husband at home & my kid calls & is all, "Uh... could you go buy me some milk at the store?" I'd laugh & hang up probably.

Quoting BαƚMαɳ:" Smurfed up  "

Tell me about it.

The next day she changed her number, email, and never spoke to her mother again. She left a message on her mother's door that said "Hope your husband was worth my mental, emotional, and physical well being. Even the rape didn't hurt as bad as the fact you were okay with risking it for a nice meal with your dick of a husband. Smurf you bitch, the only good you ever did for me was teach me everything to NOT be as a mother. You'll never speak to me again."


And I don't blame her one bit.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Commander Shepard:</b>" My children will always come first and I would hope that DH feels the same. Even after they've grown, ... [snip!] ... aren't burdening me, as I often feel with my dad.. My mom was hardly ever in my life to begin with and it hurts like hell."</blockquote>




I totally agree with this! My mom to this day isnt much help nor do I need anything from her but the essentials of a mothers is there from her part.

Quoting maegenn ♥[19weeks]:" My kids. Always my kids. Then DH. If I like him that day   I don't know how a mother could think to choose her SO over her children."

Because she has generally a longer standing relationship then with her husband then her children :-P. Believe me it's pretty common in many places of the world for kids and so's to be valued the same at least.

Quoting Legendary Amanda:" <blockquote><b>Quoting she nan igans:</b>" Not necessarily. That isn't stated. A top ... [snip!] ... a sandwich before I pull my husband out of a burning building but my child's needs will always take precedent over my husbands."

I might be, but I've seen so many woman that really do mean that. They are SO wrapped up in their kids lives (before and after they move out) that they allow their entire relationship with the husband to diminish under the guise of kids being her "top priority." Because I believe that my marriage is a large part of our family success, it's in my kids best interest that I also keep their father happy and our marriage strong.

That's why I say I don't have a clear cut "priority" especially once they move out. They don't get every little thing they want from me, they have to split time and attention with their father adn I think it's good for them.

Also want to add that I am 21 and my mom is single, but even if she was dating (she plans to start shortly) she would never put a man before her flesh and blood. And when I have children, I will do the same.

Parenting is a lifelong duty. My grandparents still "parent" their children, even though they are in their late forties-60 years old. That's what part of being a parent is about.

Quoting £egendary £ex:"   But yea I agree w/ part of what she said, like if I'm chilling w/ my husband at home & ... [snip!] ... at home & my kid calls & is all, "Uh... could you go buy me some milk at the store?" I'd laugh & hang up probably. "

Same here. Unless of course she was very ill or had just had a child and couldn't drive (I wasn't allowed to drive for a week after birth).

But, hopefully I'll do my job as a parent well enough that she'd never call for something so stupid at an adult age.

<blockquote><b>Quoting £egendary £ex:</b>"   But yea I agree w/ part of what she said, like if I'm chilling w/ my husband at home & ... [snip!] ... at home & my kid calls & is all, "Uh... could you go buy me some milk at the store?" I'd laugh & hang up probably. "</blockquote>



Oh thats a no brainer I wouldnt do it unless they are really struggling but they have to find a way first. The first time maybe but all the time hell no.

Quoting Legendary Amanda:" Every decent mother (including the ones who want to pretend to be decent) would say their kids without hesitation. Who comes first in YOUR life?"

Guess my mother is a selfish undecent twit then :-P

Quoting MysticWitchKat:" Guess my mother is a selfish undecent twit then :-P"

you said on the first page that you come first, lol. unless you don't have kids. which is weird... lol

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:</b>" Same here. Unless of course she was very ill or had just had a child and couldn't drive (I wasn't allowed ... [snip!] ... birth). But, hopefully I'll do my job as a parent well enough that she'd never call for something so stupid at an adult age."</blockquote>




Well in that case yes but other than that I probably wouldnt.

Quoting Angel [Mariah's Mommy]:" I'm grown. My sister and I are still #1. Example: my dad was in the middle of hanging drywall on a side ... [snip!] ... in case something else went wrong. Why? Because even though I'm 24, moved out, and have a child of my own, we still come first."

 

You've got an awesome father, btw. Reminds me of my grandpa.  

Quoting £egendary £ex:" you said on the first page that you come first, lol. unless you don't have kids. which is weird... lol"

Yeah but I was just posting that for amusement. I'm here because my friend niamh invited me to come here and dispense my wisdom to the masses :-P. That and i'm really smurfing bored.

Quoting £egendary £ex:" you said on the first page that you come first, lol. unless you don't have kids. which is weird... lol"

Every single thread of hers is about freaking sex... Every. Single. One. Sex and Cum.

Quoting ★Bαtgirl:" Every single thread of hers is about freaking sex... Every. Single. One. Sex and Cum. "

interesting...

sorry, it's smurfing weird as smurf to me that people w/ no kids & no intention of having kids anytime soon come on here.