re: your husband or your child/ren?

Quoting Angel [Mariah's Mommy]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Back to Noob Status:</b>"   You've got an awesome father, ... [snip!] ... He makes up greatly for the fact that my mother sucks.. Their divorce was one of the best things to happen to my childhood lol"

I've got the opposite problem (dad's a smurf, but mom is awesome). I wish my parents had divorced earlier, like before I could actually remember it, lol.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ravey Candyass:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Angel [Mariah's Mommy]:</b>" I'm grown. My sister and I are ... [snip!] ... Then alcohol. Then stepchildren. Then us. Ands thats why my children will always come first. I'm 21 and that smurf still hurts"</blockquote>



That definitely how my mom is. Except her and my step dad both hate my stepbrother

<blockquote><b>Quoting Back to Noob Status:</b>" I've got the opposite problem (dad's a smurf, but mom is awesome). I wish my parents had divorced earlier, like before I could actually remember it, lol."</blockquote>



I'm glad they divorced before my sister was old enough to remember. Until the judge opened his eyes and have us to our dad I raised my sister while my mom was off doing meth. My weekends at our dad's was an escape.

Quoting Angel [Mariah's Mommy]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Back to Noob Status:</b>" I've got the opposite problem (dad's ... [snip!] ... his eyes and have us to our dad I raised my sister while my mom was off doing meth. My weekends at our dad's was an escape."

Oh wow. I'm so sorry.  

I've got cousins who were in a similar situation, except the mother was encouraging them to steal for her and she did drugs. It was awful.

thanks for the all the replies even the EXTREME ones. i think up until a certain age my children will come first. when they can fend for themselves and have children of their own to take care of then they won't be my top priority anymore. top priority meaning making sure they're fed, getting enough hours of sleep, etc. etc.

Quoting Mrs. Mommy to 6 ღ 35:" thanks for the all the replies even the EXTREME ones. i think up until a certain age my children will ... [snip!] ... they won't be my top priority anymore. top priority meaning making sure they're fed, getting enough hours of sleep, etc. etc."

Eh, we view top priority as two different things. Top priority means if something happens, something they need help on, that I will be there to help them, no questions asked. That's my definition of top priority though. If it's something that I can help with to keep them and their families safe and comfortable, as long as they're genuinely trying to do it on their own, I'll help when they need it.

Quoting ★Bαtgirl:" Eh, we view top priority as two different things. Top priority means if something happens, something ... [snip!] ... their families safe and comfortable, as long as they're genuinely trying to do it on their own, I'll help when they need it. "

that's the case with everyone close to me. if someone calls me and they need help i will drop whatever to help, child or not. but i mean an everyday thing. right now, i have to make sure my children are happy first and then my husband. but in say 20 years i will want to make my husband happy first and then check on my kids.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Mommy to 6 ღ 35:</b>" that's the case with everyone close to me. if someone calls me and they need help i will drop whatever ... [snip!] ... are happy first and then my husband. but in say 20 years i will want to make my husband happy first and then check on my kids."</blockquote>




Huh? so just to clarify do you feel that your are not making your husband happy now?

Quoting ~*VINTAGE LOVE*~:" Huh? so just to clarify do you feel that your are not making your husband happy now?"

on my list its this:

1. kids
2. husband
3. self

i make sure my kids are happy FIRST, husband SECOND, myself THIRD.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ★Bαtgirl:</b>" Eh, we view top priority as two different things. Top priority means if something happens, something ... [snip!] ... their families safe and comfortable, as long as they're genuinely trying to do it on their own, I'll help when they need it. "</blockquote>




I agree! That doesnt mean we are going to stop been a wife to our husbands I am sure our dh's wouldnt want us dw's push our kids to the side for them. Right?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Mommy to 6 ღ 35:</b>" on my list its this: 1. kids 2. husband 3. self i make sure my kids are happy FIRST, husband SECOND, myself THIRD."</blockquote>




Same here and what is wrong with that. Even if your kids move out will you move your husband first then you second then your kids third or what?

Quoting ~*VINTAGE LOVE*~:" here and what is wrong with that. Even if your kids move out will you move your husband first then you then your kids orvwhat?"

well yes. husband, kids, me, especially when they have children of their own.

Quoting Mrs. Mommy to 6 ღ 35:" well yes. husband, kids, me, especially when they have children of their own."

What if your Mom hadn't made you and YOUR children a top priority? Who would have watched, fed and taken you all in when you were unable to do it?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Mommy to 6 ღ 35:</b>" well yes. husband, kids, me, especially when they have children of their own."</blockquote>




Once you become a mother that is a forever type of thing even as they grow older and be adults. I dont think it really matters who comes first as long as both is your number one priority kids and your husband.

<blockquote><b>Quoting A❤T=P+[It's a Girl:</b>" What if your Mom hadn't made you and YOUR children a top priority? Who would have watched, fed and taken you all in when you were unable to do it? "</blockquote>




Good point.