Quoting Back to Noob Status:" For those of you who have both sexes, do you raise your sons differently from your daughters? Vice versa. ... [snip!] ... housewives/spouses and their sons, not so much. Do you agree that little girls and little boys need to be raised differently?"
I suppose I don't really see the Duggars as an accurate representation of how many others raise their girls and boys, but I do understand what you mean. I only have a daughter at the moment, but I imagine if I have a boy, DH and I will raise him in the way we have raised our daughter. I was raised fairly conservatively and traditionally as it relates to gender roles, but more so along the lines of being "lady-like," knowing how to keep a clean house, how to cook, etc. However, there's more to me than that (went to college, DH stays home with DD when I'm out, he has his own chores around the house, etc), and we model that sort of balanced approach to gender to our daughter. So far I think my DD is very balanced in her understanding of gender roles and expectations. A lot of people make statements assuming she's into dolls and dresses. But she is equally into dolls and dress up as she is into football and whatever stereotypical things males do/like. She also gets that DH and I share a lot of the responsibilities, that we share parenting responsibilities, that mom can do what dad does, that mom isn't always at home and solely responsible for caring for her. She's 2.5 years old now, and we'll continue to have this equal approach to things. I don't always know if we're doing things right, but we really try to be balanced about things. Hopefully it works out when we have a boy. Who knows, lol?