Dear Single Dads on Online Dating Sites

I understand it's hard finding love as a single parent. Trust me, I do. But please, stop messaging me just because I'm a single mom. That doesn't mean we'll get along, and it doesn't mean that we have "so much in common" like you all keep saying. It just sounds like you're settling because you don't think someone without a kid would date you, and I don't want to be considered your consolation prize in the dating world.

Signed,
A single mom that's looking for a man for her, not a new daddy for her baby. She's fine with just her mommy right now, thanks.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Chroma Hex [+1]:</b>" I understand it's hard finding love as a single parent. Trust me, I do. But please, stop messaging me ... [snip!] ... A single mom that's looking for a man for her, not a new daddy for her baby. She's fine with just her mommy right now, thanks. "</blockquote>



Hugs! The last guy that i broke up with tried to use that. Told me "are you sure you've thought this through? You know i am a father and actually like that you're a mother, that won't be easy to find"

Smurf you dude, that's not all that matters

Umm, I actually think your POV is wrong. That's JMO.

Yikes! Some men are complete morons

Quoting snglemama:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Chroma Hex [+1]:</b>" I understand it's hard finding love as ... [snip!] ... i am a father and actually like that you're a mother, that won't be easy to find" Smurf you dude, that's not all that matters"

Yeah, I'm not settling just because someone's a dad already. I'm looking for a boyfriend, not a babysitter! Lmao. If getting the man I want means waiting then I respect myself enough to do that!

It's smurffy that he told you that. Bleh. Guys are buttheads sometimes.

Quoting Just Ames:" Umm, I actually think your POV is wrong. That's JMO."

I don't think so, considering I've gotten 8 messages from different guys in the past few days that said "Hey I've got a little boy/girl too. We should hang out sometime."

Like, I have a really big, fleshed out profile. Don't they want a girl with their same interests? I'm not settling for a guy just because he's already a dad. If someone falls for me, I want it to be for me, not because I have a kid.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Chroma Hex [+1]:</b>" I don't think so, considering I've gotten 8 messages from different guys in the past few days that said ... [snip!] ... settling for a guy just because he's already a dad. If someone falls for me, I want it to be for me, not because I have a kid. "</blockquote>



Damn, they just wanted to hang out. Not get married.

Quoting Chroma Hex [+1]:" I don't think so, considering I've gotten 8 messages from different guys in the past few days that said ... [snip!] ... settling for a guy just because he's already a dad. If someone falls for me, I want it to be for me, not because I have a kid. "

Umm   You have to start somewhere.

Quoting Jas ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Chroma Hex [+1]:</b>" I don't think so, considering I've gotten ... [snip!] ... I want it to be for me, not because I have a kid. "</blockquote> Damn, they just wanted to hang out. Not get married."

Because I have a kid. And that was the only reason they listed. That's just plain creepy and rude in my opinion.

Quoting Jas ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Chroma Hex [+1]:</b>" I don't think so, considering I've gotten ... [snip!] ... I want it to be for me, not because I have a kid. "</blockquote> Damn, they just wanted to hang out. Not get married."

Right.....   And having common interest like having kids that can IDK play together? Is a good start. Not to mention the lifestyle is the same rather than dating a guy who knows nothing about priorities.

OP you sound way off and slightly bitter for some reason.

Quoting Just Ames:" Right.....   And having common interest like having kids that can IDK play together? Is a good start. ... [snip!] ... same rather than dating a guy who knows nothing about priorities. OP you sound way off and slightly bitter for some reason."

Just because a guy doesn't have a child doesn't mean he has priorities. And regardless of if they have a child or not, I won't introduce DD to anyone until we've been serious for a while. Having play dates with someone I met online doesn't sound safe at all. =/ I may sound bitter, but I think wanting a guy to be interested in me beyond my daughter isn't asking for a lot at all.

Quoting Just Ames:" Right.....   And having common interest like having kids that can IDK play together? Is a good start. ... [snip!] ... same rather than dating a guy who knows nothing about priorities. OP you sound way off and slightly bitter for some reason."

This is true OP. I would rather date someone that has a child already so then they will know where my priorities lie. Someone with no kids will not get you half as much. Just think about your childless friends vs. those with kids. They would get you a lot more..

When I was single, guys did the same thing to me. It was annoying - I would never pass a guy up just for being a dad, obviously, but I wasn't really looking for another parent, either. Heck - the prospect of dealing with a babymama was, quite honestly, very off putting, as horrible as that sounds.

And why is it settling if someone wants to date someone with children?? Regardless of whether or not they have children, wouldn't anyone who dated you then be settling for a girl with children? Your priorities are a little skewed. Just because all they listed in the message was that they wanted to hang out because you both had kids doesn't mean they had nothing in common with you. Did you even think to check THEIR profiles and see if they had anything in common?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Chroma Hex [+1]:</b>" Because I have a kid. And that was the only reason they listed. That's just plain creepy and rude in my opinion."</blockquote>




Not really. I would tend to lean towards some one with kids because they would be more understanding since they are parents themselves. I wouldn't ONLY contact parents but yeah. You don't know if these guys have messages childless females as well.