Quoting MysticWitchKat:" Maybe one of you should look into changing jobs, because it's not even a marriage really buy a roommate ... [snip!] ... As for the sex part I would talk to your doctor about it because it's possible you might need surgery down there to correct it."
We don't need to change jobs. We work the same place and were on the same shift before we our son. We make really good money but we just can't put our son in child care. It's not a matter of not having a job that will let us work the same shift, we can work whatever shift we want, we just don't have anyone we trust or can afford to watch our kids. As far as surgery, I did ask my doctor about it and he said it would just be tender for a long time, and that's what it has been. Any pressure on it hurts, but I tore it back open after it started to heal so it's taken longer. Since I've been pregnant though any sex makes me swell inside really bad and puts me in pain for about 6 hours. Sex has always been a little painful for me, though, even before I had any kids.