re: LOVE

Quoting Lovin' My Family!!!:" we have date nights, when my mom will watch the kids, but we usually just do dinner and a movie."

Do you spend the evening talking about the same day to day stuff you usually do? Why not also alter up date night for other things  

Quoting Cade*Lily*Mom:" Yup....that is exactly how I feel! We do love our husbands and care deeply for them and I honestly don't ... [snip!] ... but that we are meant to be b/c we are soul mates and my love for him is so strong that I will be with him in the after life."

yeah. sometimes, i just wish then when he wanted to get back together with me i just went with it...but i was so hurt   my husband knows that i still have feelings for him, not only can he tell when we see him out in public but he asked and i told him yes i still do care for him he was my first love. i just know that no other love i have will ever come close to my ex and i. i guess there really is only "one true love" in your life.

Quoting MysticWitchKat:" Do you spend the evening talking about the same day to day stuff you usually do? Why not also alter up date night for other things  "

yup he comes home from work, it's how was your day - this happened this happened. then i watch tv or go out to shop, he gets on computer. if it's date night same conversation really...there really isn't much to do here. we play games together, have friends over, or watch movies.

Quoting Lovin' My Family!!!:" yup he comes home from work, it's how was your day - this happened this happened. then i watch tv or ... [snip!] ... same conversation really...there really isn't much to do here. we play games together, have friends over, or watch movies."

Try making it a rule for start that during date night you don't chat about work, kids, or anything related. Talk about things you like, want to try in life, etc. You can even make it fun by making the first person who goes away from that convo have to do something. Like first person to talk about work or the kids has to give the other a massage or cook for a week. It's important for couples to be couples, which sometimes gets lost when people have children.

Quoting MysticWitchKat:" Try making it a rule for start that during date night you don't chat about work, kids, or anything related. ... [snip!] ... a massage or cook for a week. It's important for couples to be couples, which sometimes gets lost when people have children."

true, we did have kids quickly.

Quoting Lovin' My Family!!!:" yeah. sometimes, i just wish then when he wanted to get back together with me i just went with it...but ... [snip!] ... know that no other love i have will ever come close to my ex and i. i guess there really is only "one true love" in your life."

I agree...I think that you are right. I mean I have heard of ppl loving more than one person but I wonder it is true love that they are feeling.
I didn't get the chance of getting back together, once we were in college our lives took off...but it is funny after all these years we admitted to each other if we didn't already have families we would be together and I don't know if that makes it easier or worse.

Quoting Cade*Lily*Mom:" I agree...I think that you are right. I mean I have heard of ppl loving more than one person but I wonder ... [snip!] ... to each other if we didn't already have families we would be together and I don't know if that makes it easier or worse."

You can because I know people who have loved different people in life. Sometimes you just don't allow yourself to fully care about someone after you are hurt. Or simply put you don't marry for love as much as comfort.

Quoting Cade*Lily*Mom:" I agree...I think that you are right. I mean I have heard of ppl loving more than one person but I wonder ... [snip!] ... to each other if we didn't already have families we would be together and I don't know if that makes it easier or worse."

i think some ppl are full of shiznit. haha. i really truly believe in one true love in your life. you can love after that sure...but not truly in love with a soulmate. u get one. we messed up and aren't together. yeah i had the chance to get back with him but we were both in college and i didn't want to be hurt again ( i was finally getting over the hurt after locking myself in my room for like a month). but we have also admitted that we would be together if we weren't both married with kids.

Quoting MysticWitchKat:" You can because I know people who have loved different people in life. Sometimes you just don't allow ... [snip!] ... don't allow yourself to fully care about someone after you are hurt. Or simply put you don't marry for love as much as comfort."

Your right on the comfort part b/c that was the reason I got married to my DH. The loves me the way I love my ex and I knew he was "safe" to marry and that gave me comfort.

Quoting MysticWitchKat:" You can because I know people who have loved different people in life. Sometimes you just don't allow ... [snip!] ... don't allow yourself to fully care about someone after you are hurt. Or simply put you don't marry for love as much as comfort."

i do admit i probably married for the comfort of my husband rather than the love   i mean i know we love each other, but is it really true...who knows.

Quoting Cade*Lily*Mom:" Your right on the comfort part b/c that was the reason I got married to my DH. The loves me the way I love my ex and I knew he was "safe" to marry and that gave me comfort."

that's what i just said. are you me??? i pted you.   but anyways, yeah my husband is such a sweet person...and i married him because of that. my ex however was the man of my dreams...

Quoting Lovin' My Family!!!:" i do admit i probably married for the comfort of my husband rather than the love   i mean i know we love each other, but is it really true...who knows."

Sometimes it's better to marry for comfort as well because the person you love really isn't right to marry. But you can make the most out of what you have and find some measure of happiness in it regardless  .

Quoting Lovin' My Family!!!:" i think some ppl are full of shiznit. haha. i really truly believe in one true love in your life. you ... [snip!] ... myself in my room for like a month). but we have also admitted that we would be together if we weren't both married with kids."

omg!! you ARE exactly the same!!

Quoting MysticWitchKat:" Sometimes it's better to marry for comfort as well because the person you love really isn't right to ... [snip!] ... isn't right to marry. But you can make the most out of what you have and find some measure of happiness in it regardless  ."

oh i am happy. and usually when i am to the point of not thinking about my ex...i see him again! not to mention i see him mom like everyday, we worked together and all that jazz. but either way i am happy. i just miss that true love and the sparks.

Quoting Cade*Lily*Mom:" omg!! you ARE exactly the same!! "

i know right? and here i thought i was weird for feeling this way