re: LOVE

Quoting Lovin' My Family!!!:" yeah...i just don't understand why it's so hard to move on. i feel like once he broke up with me that ... [snip!] ... back together with me, but i said no   we had sex a couple times after we broke up but that's it, my heart was gone i guess."

You most likely were hurt at the time, and felt going back with him would have just risked you to be hurt again. And my sister still pines for a guy she dated nearly 17 years ago, so it happens.

Quoting MysticWitchKat:" You most likely were hurt at the time, and felt going back with him would have just risked you to be hurt again. And my sister still pines for a guy she dated nearly 17 years ago, so it happens."

exactly, but who do i get over it? i mean i feel like i can't fully love someone else until i am fully over him. or maybe i just haven't been in love with anyone else.

Quoting Lovin' My Family!!!:" exactly, but who do i get over it? i mean i feel like i can't fully love someone else until i am fully over him. or maybe i just haven't been in love with anyone else."

Maybe....Do you see him a lot?

Quoting MysticWitchKat:" Maybe....Do you see him a lot?"

the ex? we live close to each other, but we don't see each other that much. maybe like once every couple of months?

Quoting Lovin' My Family!!!:" the ex? we live close to each other, but we don't see each other that much. maybe like once every couple of months?"

Maybe seeing him even less might help. That close nature of still seeing him might affect moving on. It could be though also like you said you just don't have the same spark with your husband is all.

Quoting Lovin' My Family!!!:" honestly - i was only ever in love with my high school sweetheart and i just knew. it's weird. when we ... [snip!] ... tingly feeling...it's weird...i always wonder if he feels like that when he sees me. we are both married now and have kids. :/"

I understand exactly how you feel...I am the same way. Also I think you know when you really love someone b/c you love them with everything you are...meaning your feelings are deep within you...like in your chest, pit of your stomach, you ache just thinking of them and they are almost are part of your soul. That is only way I know how to explain it.

Quoting MysticWitchKat:" Maybe seeing him even less might help. That close nature of still seeing him might affect moving on. It could be though also like you said you just don't have the same spark with your husband is all."

so how do i get that "spark" with my husband or is it just not possible? yeah i can't help but to see him sometimes (small town/small stores)   but when we do see each other we say hi and then it's awkward.

Quoting Cade*Lily*Mom:" I understand exactly how you feel...I am the same way. Also I think you know when you really love someone ... [snip!] ... stomach, you ache just thinking of them and they are almost are part of your soul. That is only way I know how to explain it."

is this with an ex of your's or are you like this with your husband? that's the problem, i am not feeling like this with my husband.

Quoting Lovin' My Family!!!:" so how do i get that "spark" with my husband or is it just not possible? yeah i can't help but to see ... [snip!] ... can't help but to see him sometimes (small town/small stores)   but when we do see each other we say hi and then it's awkward."

Did you go right from this one to the relationship? Did you happen to get married or have kids quickly? Do you have much in common?

Quoting Lovin' My Family!!!:" so how do i get that "spark" with my husband or is it just not possible? yeah i can't help but to see ... [snip!] ... can't help but to see him sometimes (small town/small stores)   but when we do see each other we say hi and then it's awkward."

I have seen my ex and talked to him a few times and it was awkward for us too...usually it is how are you, tell each other about our kids, and then take care of yourself.... Then I just want to cry when he is gone...
I do love my DH, but just not as intense I guess you can say and I have come to terms with I will be with my soul mate when God calls me home, so I feel like this is where I am suppose to be now...but I will have eternity with my ex

Quoting Cade*Lily*Mom:" I have seen my ex and talked to him a few times and it was awkward for us too...usually it is how are ... [snip!] ... my soul mate when God calls me home, so I feel like this is where I am suppose to be now...but I will have eternity with my ex"

omg! u are me. exactly. everytime i see him that's exactly how we talk...and my husband even said he could sense something is still there between us. i dunno, it's awkward is the word. then i think about him all night when i see him...i just don't get it. i love my husband but nothing can even compare to the love of my ex.

Quoting MysticWitchKat:" Did you go right from this one to the relationship? Did you happen to get married or have kids quickly? Do you have much in common?"

well my ex and i dated from when i was 15-20...then i joined the army, met my husband and got married at 21, so yeah it was quick, i did date in between there however with other guys but nothing major. and then i was pregnant at 22, kid at 23.

Quoting Lovin' My Family!!!:" omg! u are me. exactly. everytime i see him that's exactly how we talk...and my husband even said he ... [snip!] ... about him all night when i see him...i just don't get it. i love my husband but nothing can even compare to the love of my ex."

Yup....that is exactly how I feel! We do love our husbands and care deeply for them and I honestly don't think I would want to live without him now. But I agree it is nothing compared to the love that I have for my ex. I just keep telling myself that it is not meant to be for right now in this life but that we are meant to be b/c we are soul mates and my love for him is so strong that I will be with him in the after life.

Quoting Lovin' My Family!!!:" well my ex and i dated from when i was 15-20...then i joined the army, met my husband and got married ... [snip!] ... it was quick, i did date in between there however with other guys but nothing major. and then i was pregnant at 22, kid at 23."

I mean probably not no since you are tied together more with kids then anything. Have you made any attempts to connect as a couple? Sometimes taking some time a week to just to get to know each other can build that spark you are missing.

Quoting MysticWitchKat:" I mean probably not no since you are tied together more with kids then anything. Have you made any attempts ... [snip!] ... connect as a couple? Sometimes taking some time a week to just to get to know each other can build that spark you are missing."

we have date nights, when my mom will watch the kids, but we usually just do dinner and a movie.