I don't even know.

My baby turned one today :-) It's so cool! My family was all together tonight celebrating and my dad handed me a card that came in the mail for my son. It was from his other grandparents (who live 30 minutes away and have never come see him). I've offered multiple times for them to come over but since I am adamant about BD not being involved in DS's life until he cleans up his act they always decline... I don't expect them to be disloyal to their son but damn wake up and stop enabling him! BD is living off his girlfriend who has a 2 year old of her own, he doesn't work, and he obviously doesn't help out with his own son. Anyways the card was really sweet and she included a gift card for 50 bucks. She also wrote she didn't know if she'd get the chance to see him on h.is birthday... Uh yeah if you don't try to you probably won't. It makes zero sense to me...Her son repeatedly steals, lies, and acts so selfish and she's letting his foolishness get in the way of having a relationship with her grandson. I really love BD's parents but they are being stupid. I know how wonderful my son is so it's hard for me to comprehend how anyone wouldn't try their hardest to be in his life! Whatev things are the way they are for a reason. Thanks for readin if you did just had to spill my thoughts.

Quoting ItsEasyIfYouTry:" My baby turned one today :-) It's so cool! My family was all together tonight celebrating and my dad ... [snip!] ... to be in his life! Whatev things are the way they are for a reason. Thanks for readin if you did just had to spill my thoughts."

Happy birthday to your little man!

That is a tough situation with the grandparents. I don't understand their choice but it's hard to understand most things from the outside. It is sweet that they are thinking about him and thoughtful that they sent a gift. I hope they come around and decide to have a relationship with him because he deserves it.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Chim Richalds:</b>" Happy birthday to your little man! That is a tough situation with the grandparents. I don't understand ... [snip!] ... thoughtful that they sent a gift. I hope they come around and decide to have a relationship with him because he deserves it."</blockquote>



Just realized I never replied to this. I could have swore I did. Anyways yeah, I cannot understand their thinking either and I try to look at it from their perspective but I don't think I'll ever fully be able to understand. If my son acted this way to his own child I would be mortified. I sent them a thank you note and pictures do we'll se what happens. Thanks for your reply though chimmy ole pal!

Quoting ItsEasyIfYouTry:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Chim Richalds:</b>" Happy birthday to your little man! That ... [snip!] ... be mortified. I sent them a thank you note and pictures do we'll se what happens. Thanks for your reply though chimmy ole pal!"

How long ago did you send them? Hopefully they come around soon.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Chim Richalds:</b>" How long ago did you send them? Hopefully they come around soon."</blockquote>



I sent them recently and his mom just facebook messaged me that she loved the pics and wants to see DS again and have her sisters meet him. I said it sounds great. This whole situation sucks and its so awkward dealing with it. The fact that I don't trust my sons father enough to even be in the same room with him should speak volumes...

Quoting ItsEasyIfYouTry:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Chim Richalds:</b>" How long ago did you send them? Hopefully ... [snip!] ... dealing with it. The fact that I don't trust my sons father enough to even be in the same room with him should speak volumes..."

Ya, I can see that. You clearly have your son's best interest in mind though since you really want his dad's family involved still. I hope it works out!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Chim Richalds:</b>" Ya, I can see that. You clearly have your son's best interest in mind though since you really want his dad's family involved still. I hope it works out!"</blockquote>




Thank you kindly. I know it will all come to the best solution for my son. He is in himself all the positivity needed for this situation bc at the end of the day I look at him and see he deserves the best and nothing less

Happy Birthday to your son.

I dont know why they wouldnt be involved in your sons life. Even if me and my ex fiance werent talking and he didnt wanna see the boys i could never get rid of his mom. she harrases me to see the kids lol but we have always been close. but you have tried to make them a part of your sons life and they have refused so thats their problem not yours.