adhd and odd
posted 14th Nov
Not sure if this is right place for this but I need help, if u have a child that has both, or either of these disorders...
The adhd has calmed down a lot since we started medication, but the crying spells and odd have been thru the roof, I'm a nervous wreck by the time evenings come around... I don't know what to do anymore...
He's currently screaming and whinning in his room, all started because he said he was to stupid to read a word and purposly kept messing it up... when I reminded him he did the 1st 2 sentences with no problem, and that why I was there, to help him... he started tapping his pencil hard which I ignored, and I
erased the wrong answer and he started screaming, threw pencil by where the baby was sitting...
I know these are all part of the odd, but I have no clue how to handle it, he's screaming bloody murder because I put his folders away and told him to go in his room while we both calm down
After he has these *fits* and screams it out, he comes over and apologizes for everything and is very sorry... its like a switch... help
quoteposted 14th Nov
my son has ADHD but It does not change knowing right for wrong. I would give my son a warning first, 2nd time out, 3rd time 2 wks punishment, then 4th time I spank his ass for that smurf. I don't have those issues because he knows mama wont tolerate it. Not saying for you to do that or spank your son...that is what works for me and I don't beat him. It is open hand on the butt.
quotesmurfs?posted 14th Nov
What is odd?
quoteposted 14th Nov
Quoting VERONICA. MOM OF 6:" my son has ADHD but It does not change knowing right for wrong. I would give my son a warning first, ... [snip!] ... Not saying for you to do that or spank your son...that is what works for me and I don't beat him. It is open hand on the butt."
Of course ADHD does not change someone from knowing right from wrong but, they are more likely to act out than kids who do not have ADHD.
posted 14th Nov
<blockquote><b>Quoting VERONICA. MOM OF 6:</b>" my son has ADHD but It does not change knowing right for wrong. I would give my son a warning first, ... [snip!] ... Not saying for you to do that or spank your son...that is what works for me and I don't beat him. It is open hand on the butt."</blockquote>
That's where It gets messy because of the odd, its like he's almost manic, the more I *talk* to him or say anything for that matter it only escalates it, I used to spank him open handed when he was smaller, and it never did much, now I would have to wrestle with him to spank him, he's about 60 lbs he's half my weight, and it only makes him madder and louder.
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Quoting DeanJade&Maksims Momma:" <blockquote><b>Quoting VERONICA. MOM OF 6:</b>" my son has ADHD but It does not change ... [snip!] ... I would have to wrestle with him to spank him, he's about 60 lbs he's half my weight, and it only makes him madder and louder."
That means there is something more going on aside from the ADHD. Talk to doc about it again.
posted 14th Nov
Quoting VERONICA. MOM OF 6:" That means there is something more going on aside from the ADHD. Talk to doc about it again."
She just said he has ODD too, which I just looked up and deff seems like it has to do with that.
posted 14th Nov
<blockquote><b>Quoting VERONICA. MOM OF 6:</b>" That means there is something more going on aside from the ADHD. Talk to doc about it again."</blockquote>
I know... its called odd
quoteposted 14th Nov
<blockquote><b>Quoting ❥ Meℓi:</b>" What is odd? "</blockquote>
Sorry taking so long, he's over here with his drama... he's arguing he never learned how to add... and scribbling on his homework, he's looking at a chart screaming that 8 is less than 6... when yesterday, he had a good day with homework and did everything with no problem...
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Quoting DeanJade&Maksims Momma:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ❥ Meℓi:</b>" What is odd? "</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... chart screaming that 8 is less than 6... when yesterday, he had a good day with homework and did everything with no problem..."
Is he in any special ed classes? I have ADD & LD, special classes helped me a ton when I was in grade- high school.
posted 14th Nov
Quoting DeanJade&Maksims Momma:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ❥ Meℓi:</b>" What is odd? "</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... chart screaming that 8 is less than 6... when yesterday, he had a good day with homework and did everything with no problem..."
Have you ever had him tested for learning disabilities? I use to act out like that too because I would get frustrated that I couldn't fully grasp a concept that was taught in class that day and when I had homework to do, I was lost.
posted 14th Nov
<blockquote><b>Quoting ❥ Meℓi:</b>" Have you ever had him tested for learning disabilities? I use to act out like that too because I would get frustrated that I couldn't fully grasp a concept that was taught in class that day."</blockquote>
He's never had a problem learning, its more like he dosnt want to do it, so he thinks if he acts up it takes the attention away from the actual *work* which it does, but I seriously have break downs everynight, I have no clue what I'm doing... now he's fine... we finished the homework and he's giving his brother snacks...
He's very smart, but he plays dumb, esp at this new school, at the learning academy he was at before he got kicked out of the private
school he was in for 1 month, he was reading at a 3rd grade level... now he's in public school, and he's picks and chooses who to *read* with at his full ability, and with others he will studder and start spazzing out... he's really manipulitive, which is another awesome trait of the odd, I'm at a loss...
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Quoting DeanJade&Maksims Momma:" <blockquote><b>Quoting VERONICA. MOM OF 6:</b>" That means there is something more ... [snip!] ... is something more going on aside from the ADHD. Talk to doc about it again."</blockquote> I know... its called odd"
My bad, I was dealing with my own children at the time and I over looked that. When he is acting out..send him to the corner and ignore him. When he is being good give him lots of positive attention. Then he will start to change. Or if he is acting up.. (younger boy) turn to your other child say " Look brother is being bad, Do we act bad?" after your other child says "no ma'am" . You then say "lets show him how we act"...-all the while ignore the one acting out- then praise the one being good and give her/him a reward/praise. That is what we did for the kids in daycare and it worked good for us. I no longer work in daycare. I'm a SAHM.
posted 14th Nov
<blockquote><b>Quoting VERONICA. MOM OF 6:</b>" My bad, I was dealing with my own children at the time and I over looked that. When he is acting out..send ... [snip!] ... reward/praise. That is what we did for the kids in daycare and it worked good for us. I no longer work in daycare. I'm a SAHM."</blockquote>
I won't do that, I know he already has low self esteem which is part of the odd, he constantly compares himself to my other children and believes I don't love him as much *they have diff fathers*
I don't want him acting out towards the babies because I used them as a model to show how bad dean was awhat he was doing wrong... when he starts the screaming and throwing things I end up dragging him to room and bringing other kids to other side of house, I can still hear him, when he stops he comes out after bout half an hour and apologizes... and we talk about it, but its only matter of time when it happens again...
I guess I'm just looking if any1 has and advice on how I can handle myself, I have 2 other children and its like I'm fully indulged in him,
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