Quoting ℳommy to Kai♥:" So what about the second one? They don't get that one year alone. I can love my kids both equally and both just as much as I love my son now."
I'm just sharing what I feel. I lost my baby that I was going to have in February. I would trade anything to still have that baby back in a heartbeat.
The only thing is that with what all my baby girl is doing, I'm glad I have that time to give her that extra attention. When I was pregnant for those three months , I had hardly any energy to do anything with her. I got home from work and all I wanted to do was sleep on the couch and I felt a bit guilty about it.
And if you wait until you second child is a little more independent (walking, talking, ect) you don't have to give the special attention that a baby needs. I'm not trying to say don't have your second baby now , I was just giving you a pro to waiting.