Only if you can't afford necessity's. Not everyone has or or will have tons other money saved up in bank accounts, but you shouldn't ttc imo if youre stuggeling to eat and pay bills.

<blockquote><b>Quoting P.S I'm pregnant ♥:</b>" Only if you can't afford necessity's. Not everyone has or or will have tons other money saved up in bank accounts, but you shouldn't ttc imo if youre stuggeling to eat and pay bills."</blockquote>


I agree

Quoting James Mama:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Kati Iss Rollinn:</b>" My sister has 3 kids they're all in teens ... [snip!] ... shop at Payless. Like I said I think that good shoes are important. And I let my kids pick out their shoes for the most part."

Actually where i live we have shoe warehouse's, shoe carnival etc. with name brand shoes,not payless at all lol. They have decent shoes at those places with awesome prices. Atleast that's where my sister buys shoes since she has so many kiddos and they last long.

Quoting dat uterus tho:" <blockquote><b>Quoting DisneyMommyTTC#3:</b>" Yeah they get older than 2 though, ... [snip!] ... I had to. That is not a need and a teenager is the cheapest of all to provide for. I had to start paying for my smurf at 16."

Oh we have this in common lol. S/o and i were just talking about this lastnight. When our son hits 16 if he want's all of that extra stuff he will have to get job to work for it. When i was in high school i don't think i knew one person that didn't have a part time job after school.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kati Iss Rollinn:</b>" Oh we have this in common lol. S/o and i were just talking about this lastnight. When our son hits 16 ... [snip!] ... job to work for it. When i was in high school i don't think i knew one person that didn't have a part time job after school."</blockquote>



At 16 my kids will be expected to focus on school and any sports that they may be in. Of course they will have responsibilities around the house but I won't expect them to get a job.

I worked while in high school and it definitely took away from my studies.

I think we get really confused today between what is necessary & what is wanted & simply common in most homes.

We have no money issues, but we do worry our kids will grow up overly entitled if we gave them what we could actually afford to give them, so we don't. Instead, we shop 2nd hand for many things, especially clothing, we have no cable or satellite, I have no cell phone (Dh has to for work & only uses it for work), we have used cars, one TV, etc. We also have our house paid off, our cars paid off, very few bills due to this lifestyle as we pay off everything we can as soon as we can if we don't just buy it outright. On this budget we could have 5 more kids (we won't)...but the point, is my kids have everything they need & then some & that is all I plan to do no matter what we can *afford* to do.

In the past 50 yrs so much has changed people do not realize - bills have gone up because of what we think we need, not because the cost of living is really going up so much.

Not saying anyone wants this life...but in 1950:
Many people had no phone & if they did it was a party line
People had way less clothing than now partly due to the fact that there was no washing machine (commercial ones were invented in 1953, went to market a few years after, etc)
No TV's in many homes - in those that did obviously no satellite or cable (interestingly TV cost about the same in 1950 as they do today - no joke - yikes!)
No computers or internet
So yeah - the people who grew up in the 50's weren't deprived & neither would kids today be with the same situation. Not having what you need is totally different than not having what you want.

So if you can live within your real means & not leave yourself or your kids vulnerable to being naked, hungry or homeless & still have more kids, more power to you.