Quoting LolaMcKitten:" You don't "owe" your daughter anything. Gifts are exactly that - children shouldn't be brought up expecting ... [snip!] ... don't. She's 4 - my son is almost 4, and I can promise you that he really, really won't care whether he gets 5 toy cars or 2. "
I actually DO owe my daughter a lot.. I owe her a happy childhood, I owe her food, shelter, clothing, love and for her not to feel like she's "poor" or "underprivileged"
And and I have a love/hate relationship with Christmas, as a child I used to strongly dislike it because other children got so much more and so much nicer things than I did, and I felt embarrassed about it, and I don't want Chloe to have to go through that ever, even if it is just material things I don't want Chloe to have to feel bad about something, but I do know at 4 she's not going to experience this but she will eventually. I don't know how to change the way I think, and I'm sure other moms out there feel the same, I'm in school, not only to be able to stop living paycheck to paycheck, but I wanna be able to spoil my daughter, I was never really spoiled and it kinda sucks IMO.