Having a hard time coping

My son 16 yrs old left home a few weeks ago and I am having a very hard time coping with it. Anyone been through this?

He is safe and went to my mom's house so that makes it a little easier. On the other hand he never answers my calls or txt. Everyone says what a good mom I was and that I bend over backwards for him...I guess it just wasn't enough

I've never been through this, but I left home at 17. For the first year or so I hardly called/texted my parents. I try to call my mom as often as I can now but it's hard to find the time. (19 and I have two kids) I'm sure he'll come around eventually. ((hugs))

My mom and her current husband are having problems with his 15yr old. He's had a good life and loving parents (probably spoiled a little too much being the only child) but he just wants to rebel and do drugs no matter what he's threatened with (by the judge) He's even sat in Juvie for a while but he's still the same punk of a kid and there is no reasoning with him.. I think some kids are the way they are just because (if that makes sense) Nothing you did.

Quoting Milk Monster:" I've never been through this, but I left home at 17. For the first year or so I hardly called/texted ... [snip!] ... as often as I can now but it's hard to find the time. (19 and I have two kids) I'm sure he'll come around eventually. ((hugs))"

I really do hope that happens

Quoting ♣ Lauren ♥:" My mom and her current husband are having problems with his 15yr old. He's had a good life and loving ... [snip!] ... and there is no reasoning with him.. I think some kids are the way they are just because (if that makes sense) Nothing you did."

I think it would be easier for me to deal with if he was that type of teen, but he never got into drugs, stole money, the car, he was an A-B student and into sports since he was little. The only thing that seemed to change of course was the attitude every now and then.

Quoting ♣ Lauren ♥:" My mom and her current husband are having problems with his 15yr old. He's had a good life and loving ... [snip!] ... and there is no reasoning with him.. I think some kids are the way they are just because (if that makes sense) Nothing you did."

I think it would be easier for me to deal with if he was that type of teen, but he never got into drugs, stole money, the car, he was an A-B student and into sports since he was little. The only thing that seemed to change of course was the attitude every now and then.

Quoting T&D+A&C:" I really do hope that happens"

So I was reading your past threads and I'm thinking he probably left for the same reason I did. He has a baby on the way. Maybe he feels like now he needs to grow up and get out of his parents house? Just reassure him that you are there for him if he ever needs you and your door is always open if he needs a place to go.

Just wondering, but what were his reasons for leaving? He may just need space. If that's it, give it to him. I know how hard it is to bite your tongue or not try talking to him about things or to text/call him, but for now let him just cool off. I hope things get better. Just let him know no matter what, you love him and will always be there for him. Being 16 is tough to many, I left home for a few months at that age, but I did go back home.

Quoting T&D+A&C:" I think it would be easier for me to deal with if he was that type of teen, but he never got into drugs, ... [snip!] ... and into sports since he was little. The only thing that seemed to change of course was the attitude every now and then."

I hear ya. . I was a good kid growing up but never close to my family. moved to NC at 18 and hardly talked to my parents and never came home even on holidays. It took my brother passing away and a little growing upto realize what I was missing and moved back t good ol' houston and made more of and effort to be closer to my family. Hope you feel better and he comes around. . I think he will eventually. be thankful he's not into drugs or anything, it could always be worse  

Quoting Milk Monster:" So I was reading your past threads and I'm thinking he probably left for the same reason I did. He ... [snip!] ... Just reassure him that you are there for him if he ever needs you and your door is always open if he needs a place to go."

His gf moved into our house and I was really the only one that was there for them from the beginning (everyone else was very upset and wouldn't have anything to do with them). I don't understand it...he just said he wanted to move in with my mom and since then him and his gf have been very nasty to me and I just keep telling him and I love him and miss him the few times he actually would talk to me.