I dont ask for anything. The last couple years I have bought myself something for under the tree so my son doesnt think oh wow.. its all about me. And why didnt mommy get anything????

I don't expect them to and we even tell them not to but every year my mom and dad get us something. In our family we used to draw names but this year we're buying for my parents and they'll buy for us and I'm buying for my sister and she's buying for me because we're close but we're leaving our husbands out of it cause they could care less. On his side we're not buying for anyone even the kids because we're not that close to them and we've had a falling out this year but I think his mom is still buying for us even though we told her not to.

There was only one child in my family, my little cousin, until I had DS. I'd ask her mother, my 1st cousin, what she couldn't afford to buy for A then I'd cover the rest. If I had the extra money I'd buy the couples gifts, which everyone in my family is married. I usually buy gift cards to restaurants for them, ranging from $20-$50.

I don't expect anything, I never have even before DS. The first Christmas that DH and I were married I told everyone that if they were planning on buying a gift for me to just give me the money, even if it was $5 or get a gift card to Best Buy. I was saving up to buy DH an electric drum set

<blockquote><b>Quoting C A R M E L A:</b>" that's not right at all, that they are like that. Christmas is a holiday to spend with family, not ... [snip!] ... not about who brings gifts & what not. In my family, it's all about the kids, us adults do not expect gifts at all."</blockquote>


It's definitely not right! They are so possessive: "this is mine, not yours" that my MIL actually yelled at my 2 year old son (at the time) one year because he was trying to help his 1yo brother open a gift. I went off, I was just like "he can't do it on his own and even if he could, my kids will be sharing."

Oh and heaven forbid they touch a present that has neither of their names on it!

everyone always tells me not to buy them anything but i do anyways since i know they get me stuff. but thankfully my list for adults is short and i dont mind spending 20 each on a few people

<blockquote><b>Quoting Yurvette [♥]:</b>" I dont ask for anything. The last couple years I have bought myself something for under the tree so my son doesnt think oh wow.. its all about me. And why didnt mommy get anything???? "</blockquote>


Mm that's a fair point.

My kids don't even notice that mummy and daddy didn't get anything, but they always share their toys with us.

We usually don't do gifts over 18 in our family unless it's your SO, your child, or your parent.

Even then, I don't expect to get a gift from anyone.

No one should expect gifts ever. Gifts are just that- gifts. I don't give with the expectation to recieve something in return.

I get so into the spirit of the season, I don't even think about myself. I've actually come a long way! See spoiled brats can really change! haha

I give presents to my mom and two brothers. That's it.

My side of the family does a secret Santa gift exchange so that each one of us has one gift to open and one gift to give on Christmas Eve. Everyone buys presents for the 5 kids though.

However, on my husbands side everyone buys gifts for everyone (8 adults, including me and hubby, and 2 children)...and I have been trying to change that for years but obviously it has not worked. I wouldn't mind doing a secret Santa on that side too but having to buy presents for 6 adults is getting a little ridiculous.