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it seems like we take 5 steps forward & 10 steps back. after bills are paid we were supposed to have $90 to spend on christmas & $50 more friday from taking some brush off for DHs coworker. his check didn't come in due to the hurricane for 2 weeks so we got thrown way behind. this week wasn't supposed to be so bad, not great but not horrible, we have yet to buy the 1st gift for each other or DD let alone anyone else. this time last year i was stocked with christmas. i never in a million years thought it would be this hard when he got out of the army. i litterally have $40 to my name haven't bought diapers, wipes, or formula :/ ..
lets make it even worse the results of my coloscopy are in & we go tomorrow to find out, i'm terrified. i'm falling into a deep depression. i need to get a job but if i domy entire check will only pay for daycare. idk what else to do.

sorry pointless but i just have to get off my chest & idk want friends or family to know guess it's a little bit of pride.

You can make ends meet. I live by a stricked budget and I write things down so I know where our money goes and then we have everything paid. Pregnancy brain makes me forget the little things.

Anyway, i suggest asking for help. Its to ask for help. See if there is a program you can sign your daughter up to get Presents from. Also if she is young she will never know that this Christmas wasnt as good as last.

We start back in the summer get a little some here or a little something there. It is so much easier than coming up with stuff right before Christmas. Good luck hun things will get better and work out.

Don't feel ashamed to ask for help. I totally understand where you are coming from, I am struggling myself this year and may have to move in with family for a few months when the baby is born to save up.
See if you qualify for WIC, to get formula and essentials to keep you and the baby healthy.
Christmas is not about the gifts, it is about love and family. If you have those two things than you can not have a bad christmas.
Try making gifts with things you have at home. Write a list of 25 things you love about your husband and give that to him. You don't need to spend money to make it special.
Don't go into a depression, it is not healthy for you, or the baby and may put a strain on your relationship.
Talk to someone if you think it is getting bad, it may be nice just to vent.
Stay strong hun, you aren't alone and you can do this. Happy holidays!

Also not sure if you state has a program or not. But my state has a program where I can go in and watch a movie to get babe coupons and then I can buy things I need with those coupons at the babe store. I've not bought any packages of diapers for this baby yet and she isnt here yet either. But I have a stock pile from watchign movies to get coupons. Also wic, and even food stamps to free up some money

she's on wic but it's no where near enough since she pulled away from the breast :/ i didn' have DD last year i had just found out i was pregnant but i had little things like gender nutral blankets & passies just to make it feel real since i almost lost her in the begining. i know she doesn't understand she's only going to be 5 months at the time but in the same light i want to have things she needs like a walker & cloths for her, we're going to sign up for help through my grandpas church. it's her 1st christmas i still want it to be a good 1. i would talk to my mom or grandma more if they didn't have so much on them with my uncle (who was arrested & is talking about harming himself). my family has alot on them without me having to worry about us to. this year isn't for her it's for us because she wont remember but i will.

Quoting aperkins:" Also not sure if you state has a program or not. But my state has a program where I can go in and watch ... [snip!] ... yet either. But I have a stock pile from watchign movies to get coupons. Also wic, and even food stamps to free up some money"

i haven't heard about anything like that around here & i was denyed for foodstamps a few months ago & even while i was pregnant.

I understand that. You could alwasy choice to delay Chirstmas til tax time. Then get her what she needs and what you want her to have. It will all work out. If you are no longer breastfeeding at all they can up your checks if you tell them she is on all formula now.

Well sense the hurricane and the checks being delay you might be able to get help now.

Quoting aperkins:" I understand that. You could alwasy choice to delay Chirstmas til tax time. Then get her what she needs ... [snip!] ... all work out. If you are no longer breastfeeding at all they can up your checks if you tell them she is on all formula now."

i have to call to make an appointment this month so i plan on telling them. i was going to finish up with taxs. my car took a crap on me so we have no way to get around so i also have to geta new car. not to worried about it because my mom will let me use hers when i need it.

If you can afford it get her the little things she needs now. Its ok for her to unwrap a package of diapers or formula. She will enjoy the paper and bows just as much. Then maybe get her a thing she really needs. Then your husband and you can get whatever whenever you can afford it. Remember the real reason of Christmas. Its about the love. If you stress about not having money now it will only ruin your happiness and make you more depressed. Families just startign out with new babies go threw so much and it is tuff. But you guys can do this  

i atleast found her santa (: we found a elmo walker off craigslist for $10 if that's all we can afford i'm ok with that. i just wanted her to have a santa. my mom actually just found a jumperoo for $20 we are going to go get tomorrow. takes a loud off. i'm excited about lights & such she's going to be into. i'm trying not to stress to bad so i can enjoy it. thank you ladies

I walker, jumperoo, and santa are all good presents. If you want more to make your tree look floor for pictures for her to remember and you wrap the things she will need. A box of diapers, a can of formula, and maybe cheap christmas pjs. We buy used a lot and I dont feel bad but we are soon to be a family of 7

Quoting aperkins:" I walker, jumperoo, and santa are all good presents. If you want more to make your tree look floor for ... [snip!] ... a can of formula, and maybe cheap christmas pjs. We buy used a lot and I dont feel bad but we are soon to be a family of 7"

i don't like buying new at all because she outgrows things so fast.