Quoting ★Bαtgirl:" Depends on the maturity of the child and the situation... I'd rather my child have a sex toy and get off herself, than have sex and potentially catch an STD or get pregnant at 13."

This is also another thing I was thinking. I mean if your daughter is interested in sex I could see giving her a way to do it herself and try to prolong her going at it with a guy. But in the same sense don't you think giving her one is almost like a go ahead to be sexually active?

Omg i would of died as a teen if my mom had given me a sex toy   ! How awkward. When my daughter is working if she wants to buy her own then so be it but i will not buy one for her...

Quoting BαƚMαɳ:" Seriously!! I almost died the first time my mother gave me a box of condoms. "Your aunt and I were talking and decided to buy these for you.""

OMG 

I could have NEVER imagined my mother buying me a sex toy. EVEN NOW! EWWWW I would freak on her. Im sorry but that's weird to mee!

Quoting ℳonster's ℳom:" But in the same sense don't you think giving her one is almost like a go ahead to be sexually active?"

Ummmm sort of. You could also say "I really don't want you to be sexually active" and open up a dialog about why that is and the implications of being sexual young. I think it'd be super awkward to preemptively just throw a vibrator at your twelve year old. But if you are able to talk about sex with them periodically (hence she would come to you about sexual issues, not her friends, or porn, or internet forums) and it comes up.... I don't see how saying no to a sex toy is going to help anything if they are thinking sexually already.

Quoting TrollMama:" If my kid wants one, she'll have one. If she's old enough to ask for one or about one, then obviously ... [snip!] ... most of them are, they're probably using household items  . Think about it next time you grab that roll on deoderant LOL."

Ewww. I never thought about it that way!

Quoting ℳonster's ℳom:" This is also another thing I was thinking. I mean if your daughter is interested in sex I could see ... [snip!] ... going at it with a guy. But in the same sense don't you think giving her one is almost like a go ahead to be sexually active?"

Nope. In my opinion, it's showing the child that she doesn't need to be in a man's pants to sexually satisfy herself.

Quoting TrollMama:" Ummmm sort of. You could also say "I really don't want you to be sexually active" and open up a dialog ... [snip!] ... and it comes up.... I don't see how saying no to a sex toy is going to help anything if they are thinking sexually already."

That's true. Because if they are asking about one then obviously they have some sort of vested interest into being sexually active. I am hoping though the mother is going to get her one as a way to let her be sexually active without actually having intercourse with a boy and not just out of the blue.
I would imagine her mother giving her one just because, and without ever getting comfortable on the subject of sex with her daughter could cause some emotional scaring for the daughter.

Quoting ★Bαtgirl:" Nope. In my opinion, it's showing the child that she doesn't need to be in a man's pants to sexually satisfy herself. "

this!!

Quoting ★Bαtgirl:" Nope. In my opinion, it's showing the child that she doesn't need to be in a man's pants to sexually satisfy herself. "

I actually think opposite of this. Only because like the reason I didn't have sex for a while was because I was CLUELESS to sex. And nervous about it. But if I was given a sex toy that young ya sure I might not have sex right away but it would make me more comfortable about sex. My friends mom actually got her one when she was 13. She was adopted so her mom was trying to be more of a friend then parent. She still had sex shortly after.

Quoting ★Bαtgirl:" Nope. In my opinion, it's showing the child that she doesn't need to be in a man's pants to sexually satisfy herself. "

I never thought of it that way. Kind of like teaching her to be comfortable sexually satisfying herself all the while teaching her she doesn't need a boy to pleasure her.

>< oh noooo way

No way in hell. I'd die if my mom got me one now, let alone when I was 12. Preteens can do it the old fashioned way, find out which porn sites are safe from their friends, go into private browsing and watch to their hearts' content after everyone else is in bed. lol

I hope my kids trust me and are comfortable enough to be ok asking me about sex toys if they are interested. I would not buy it for a twelve year old but I don't want my kids to hide or be embarrassed by their sexuality, I want them to feel empowered by and responsible for their bodies and their sexuality.
I'll be open to having discussions with them about their complete anatomy and their biology. I hope they are able to explore and discover their bodies comfortably, sonif at 16 or 17 any of my children ask me about or for a sex toy, I'll make sure they know what it's for, how to keep it clean, and I'd happily provide one for them. Just like if they feel ready to become sexually active and I think they are capable of being responsible with that freedom, I'll happily provide condoms and other birthcontrol options.
To me 12 is a bit young but I don't know the girl so, who knows?

I am so super shocked at the amount of people that wouldn't bring forth the good vibrations LOL. 18 is not the magical age where it's okay to be, or we suddenly are, sexual. I am fully going to encourage my kid to be sexual and aware of her body BY HERSELF for as long as I can possibly get away with it. Your kids are watching porn btw. And they are learning all kinds of twisted smurf from it (I am actually researching this right now). Setting your parental controls aren't stopping it... talking to them and educating them is better than letting them get ideas from that!!! Saying "this is ewwy" is not helping them in the slightest.