Quoting lucasmommy26:" My son is almost 4 months old, he was born 7 weeks early. and i just need some advice from some other ... [snip!] ... anything i can do to help him start holding his head on his own, and help him with other things a 4 month old should be doing."You can't base his development on his age from birth. You have to adjust for where he would be had he actually been born around his due date. That will give you a more accurate idea of where he should be. So, at 4 months old, but 7 weeks early, he would actually only be 2 months old, and it's rare for a 2 month old to consistently hold his head up on his own.