I dont know if I was raped or not

Theres this guy who I see everyday at work. We dont work at the same company but he works in the same building. Hes so gorgeous to me. Hes tall, black with hazel eyes. Well 2 weeks ago he sent me a friend request on Facebook and I accepted. I was shocked because I thought he was way out of my league. I have a nice body but my face is not beautiful. He sent me a message and we started chatting and texting. First it was friendly then it became sexual. He started to request naked pics of me and at first I was skeptical and scared because I didnt think he would like what he saw but he kept asking so I sent them. I sent him headless shots of my full body and then shots of my pussy, my breasts and my ass. He would tell me that he was jerking off to them and he wanted to cum on my tits. He said things like he wanted to take a pic of me sucking him off, and him banging me from behind. All of this happened on the weekend so when Monday came around I was scared and avoided him as much as possible. I didnt go to lunch that day and stayed my ass in the office and left later so I wouldnt see him.

Monday evening he texted me and told me he wanted to see me. I was scared and told him no but he kept asking so I told him to come and get me but we werent having sex. I dropped my kid off to my mom's and went back home to wait for him. He came but I didnt want him to come inside my place because I didnt want to have sex with him. He drove to a deserted beach and parked the car. As soon he parked the car he started kissing on my neck and touching me. He told me he wanted to take that picture of me going down on him but I told him no. Then he told me he wanted to take the picture of him doing me from behind but he wouldnt enter me. He just wanted me to take my pants off and leave on my panties. I was stupid I know. I made him promise he wouldnt enter me and did what he asked me to. We went to the backseat with the door open and I kneeled down in the car and he was standing outside. He pressed against me and started taking pics with his phone. I kept my face down so I couldnt see what he was doing. Out of nowhere he pulled my panties aside and entered me. He was pulling my hair and yanking me around. I wasnt making any noise or moving because I was shocked and scared. He finished inside me, he wasnt wearing a condom and just told me to put my pants back on then he drove me home.

I tried texting and messaging him on facebook all yesterday but he hasnt responded. Im at work now and I dont know if I should confront him privately here and tell him how he hurt me and that Im thinking of getting the police involved. What do you think?

You were raped. I would get the police involved and please take this as a HUGE lesson learned.

If you said no and he continued anyway, then yes, it is rape. You don't have to say no while the actual act is taking place for it to be considered. You said so beforehand and were scared and shocked while it was going on. I would be beyond hurt, feel used and completely disgusted with that man. You should go to the Police. I would not try to contact him again, at all.

I am sorry this happened but I would consider that rape and get the police involved.

Yes you were raped...I'd be looking at getting tested for any diseases and possibly Plan b if you haven't waiting 72 hrs from after he raped you.

Yes. You were raped, please go to your local hospital ASAP.

DO NOT CONFRONT HIM PERSONALLY.

Big hugs

I do NOT mean to sound insensitive.


If you were raped, I'm truly very sorry. If you said no, no means no. Nobody deserves it. But your actions here weren't innocent in the least. He will have a field day with all of the texts, messages, pictures, phone calls, etc you were sending.

Irregardless of whether or not you consented- please get yourself checked immediately.

Don't confront the guy, but go to the police. Make sure you tell them everything you said to this guy and you need to tell them about the pictures and everything, too, just so if it comes to trial, it's already noted and he can't say "she was asking for it." The fact that you said "no" to actual sex is enough.

Honestly, does it really look good? No, but that does not take away from the fact you were raped.

I'm so sorry that happened to you. As everyone else said, Yes it's rape. I would get police involved and get yourself tested  

That is definitely rape...

I'm not saying it's your fault, but you really shouldn't have led him on and put yourself in that position (alone in his car), especially if you were already scared. He might have thought you were playing a game, or teasing him because the pictures definitely send the wrong message... That being said it was not your fault that happened, it was rape, and you need to contact the police and not him.

Wow hun I'm Sooo sorry, that just broke my heart to see this.. I would get tge police involved and I would also change ur number from getting harrassed even further. Get checked by a Dr as well cuz u never know what he might have  

Quoting tinana +2:" Well, this is in sex & relationships, so............ Is this made up? Because who in their right ... [snip!] ... their ass? If you were raped, I'm truly very sorry. Nobody deserves it. But your actions here weren't innocent in the least."

You need to GTFO.

Take all your judgemental nonsense outta here. You are unbelieveably ignorant on the concept of rape.

I'm so sorry. The only legal advice I can give you is it is considered rape as long as you say no more than once. He took away your right to say no, so I consider that rape. Again I am so sorry.

Yes, that was rape. While I will say this, I hope you learned a huge lesson, that did not give him the right. Go to the cops.

Are you on BC? I would be getting the morning after pill if its not past 72 hours. Go get checked out! Im sorry this happened but what were you thinking. He could send you nude photos TO ANYONE!