re: I dont know if I was raped or not

Quoting Boobie On Demand:"

I understand and like I said a few posts down- I don't mean to sound insensitve. I will delete what I said because I don't want people to get the wrong idea.

Quoting tinana +2:" Not trying to be judgemental. I edited a little because I don't mean to sound insincere. I don't need ... [snip!] ... to my opinion. She posted behind an account and I am not picking on her intentionally. She asked a question and I answered."

Unfortunately, you are right. Its going to be a hard case to prove. He will have texts, and pictures. Rape is extremely hard to prove regardless. In this case it is almost impossible.   Alot of rapists get away with it for years, if they ever get caught.

Quoting Crystal Marie S.:" That's true and I do think it would be very hard to prosecute in this situation. But if she does go to the police, there will be a record if, God forbid, something like this happens in the future."

This, exactly.

If she decided to press charges, it will be an incredibly hard case to prosecute, rape cases are rarely cut and dry.

But having it on record is important, especially if there's any DNA to be found, at this point.

Please have yourself checked for STD's and try to rule out pregnancy (plan B)

This is horrible, please report it asap and also speak to your employer so they are not blindsided

Quoting That Girl.:" Boo I totally thought I had the only That Girl name."

Nope, I have had it for years

<blockquote><b>Quoting tinana +2:</b>" I understand and like I said a few posts down- I don't mean to sound insensitve. I will delete what I said because I don't want people to get the wrong idea. "</blockquote>



Sorry I posted that before I got a chance to read that last post. But you're right it will be very hard to prosecute this case because a lawyer could twist the hell out of it.

Go to a doctor and tell them, contact the police. That is rape even though you put yourself in a compromised position. You still told him no. It would be a very difficult case, but you should try

<blockquote><b>Quoting tinana +2:</b>" I do NOT mean to sound insensitive. If you were raped, I'm truly very sorry. If you said no, no means ... [snip!] ... phone calls, etc you were sending. Irregardless of whether or not you consented- please get yourself checked immediately."</blockquote>




Her actions prior maybe, but that doesn't mean she's not innocent.

OP, get to a hospital and tell them. Idk how many days it's been, but they might wanna do a rape kit, plan b if it hasn't been 72 hrs, and check you for STDs.

I know what you are going through, though I didn't send pictures to the guy, I was rapes at 16 by my 'friend' you can pm me if you need to. Im so sorry this happened to you.

One thing i don't understand..Is why would you go anywhere alone with him in the first place? Try maybe a coffee shop or a mall? Clearly public is so much better, especially when getting out of a situation you aren't comfortable with. Another thing i'm confused over is why even put yourself in that position in his car (pants off, bent over)...I agree it's definetly rape, not your fault..However with everything he was asking of you, all of those intentions seemed as though he wanted only one thing. Sex.

Quoting Logan and Noah's Momma :" One thing i don't understand..Is why would you go anywhere alone with him in the first place? Try maybe ... [snip!] ... fault..However with everything he was asking of you, all of those intentions seemed as though he wanted only one thing. Sex."

But, you don't have to understand it. She admitted she made some bad choices. She said the guy was incredibly handsome etc. Maybe she was naive and thought things were going to be different. It really doesn't matter.

Quoting Crystal Marie S.:" But, you don't have to understand it. She admitted she made some bad choices. She said the guy was incredibly ... [snip!] ... guy was incredibly handsome etc. Maybe she was naive and thought things were going to be different. It really doesn't matter."

Just curiosity.. is all.

Also OP, remember there are millions of women who have gone through very similar situations. If you need someone to talk to, I'm sure there are plenty of women on this site (me included), and in your area, who would talk to you about it. Also I'm sure there is a rape survivor therapy group, or individual therapist who can help you cope. It helped me alot. Please dont hesitate to talk to someone if you feel you need to. Most importantly, remember, your not alone, and it isnt your fault.

Quoting tinana +2:" "

Thanks..I really didn't think i was overstepping any bounds..

Quoting Logan and Noah's Momma :" One thing i don't understand..Is why would you go anywhere alone with him in the first place? Try maybe ... [snip!] ... fault..However with everything he was asking of you, all of those intentions seemed as though he wanted only one thing. Sex."

Great advice! I'm am sure when OP gets her time machine all fixed she will go back and suggest a trip to Starbucks.

Hindsight is 20/20.

I am sure you have hoped a guy a better intentions than he ended up having, or were alone with someone you didn't know that well.