Quoting daddy mack:" its a 5 hour drive between families so....cant really split the day. if i could take my kid i would...but ... [snip!] ... im not doing direct replies to ppl im kinda stupid on here and dont know how...yet....its my fist time using this site so..."
You need to tell them how you feel! Don't let them walk all over you. It isn't right. TELL your wife how things are going to go..you don't need "permission". Explain to her that your family is just as important. Try reversing the situation..ask her how she would feel if you did the same thing to her and left her with no options.