My daughter and I are "missing persons" *Update*

My (very abusive) ex called in a "missing persons" report on my daughter and I. We are hiding from him after he attempted to kidnap my daughter and threatened to kill me.

The police called my parents house where I am staying (long story, I'm helping them not the other way around) last night and said I have to present not only myself but my daughter to the police to show that we are alive and well. They will also be looking over my daughter to make sure there is no abuse.  

So, today I'm going down to not the police station alone (my ex has many family members in the police, which is why I've always been afraid to report him), I called an abused women's counselor/lawyer last night and she is going with me.

I'm placing a report, for the first time, about the abuse, attempted kidnapping of my daughter and here, we do this thing were we file a report saying "if anything happens to me, so-and-so is responsible"; if anything happens to a person after making that report, so-and-so goes straight to prison and then is investigated.

Also, I'm going to find out today what steps are necessary in this country for my daughter to be adopted by SO. And, if I really want to screw up my ex's life, I can file for back child support from the day I found out I was pregnant. He was leach and never paid a sent for us (he never even held down a job for more than 6 months at a time... and 6 months was stretching it). If he doesn't pay within one month, he goes to prison and his prison is worth 1 buck a day (he owes at least 30,000). I don't think I'm going to do it, but I know I can, and I might.

If I keep typing I'm going to start ranting... but, anyways, if you could just keep my family in your thoughts (and prayers if you pray) I'm grateful. I don't know how much my nerves can take!

Good, I'm glad you're getting him out of your life. I would do all of it, even the prison time for back support. Father or not, I wouldn't let him have another chance to kidnap my child, or hurt me.

Quoting Crystal Marie S.:" Good, I'm glad you're getting him out of your life. I would do all of it, even the prison time for back support. Father or not, I wouldn't let him have another chance to kidnap my child, or hurt me."

oh I totally plan on staying very, very hidden! I'm afraid that if I file for the back support, they will grant him visitation until they figure out how much he owes or something. That's the only thing holding me back.

I warned him (back before the kidnapping attempt, when he was just being a jerk and got me fired from my job and spread rumors) that if he kept trying to screw with my, my SO's or my daughter's life I would seek legal actions.

So, as long as I'm guaranteed he will not get visitation, I will proceed with the prison thing. But I need to know for sure that my spawn will be safe.

Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" oh I totally plan on staying very, very hidden! I'm afraid that if I file for the back support, they ... [snip!] ... he will not get visitation, I will proceed with the prison thing. But I need to know for sure that my spawn will be safe. "

This is totally agree with. I had almost the same situation with DD1&2's Father. I'm afraid if I seek CS, he will get visitation, even though abuse to both me and our youngest was documented. So for 10 years I've done it alone.

Quoting Crystal Marie S.:" This is totally agree with. I had almost the same situation with DD1&2's Father. I'm afraid if I ... [snip!] ... CS, he will get visitation, even though abuse to both me and our youngest was documented. So for 10 years I've done it alone."

I'm so sorry that you've had to go through that. This certainly isn't something I'd wish on anyone. My ex has honestly never abused my daughter (which is why I allowed him to see her until he tried to take her from me).

My thoughts are with you and your family! I hope everything works out for you! <3

Good luck!!! I wish you the best. You're doing the right thing!

Good luck I hope things work out for you and your little girl!

Good luck. Im sorry your having to deal with all that, but I'm proud of you for getting away and protecting yourself and your daughter. You are stronger than most.

Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" My (very abusive) ex called in a "missing persons" report on my daughter and I. We are hiding from him ... [snip!] ... could just keep my family in your thoughts (and prayers if you pray) I'm grateful. I don't know how much my nerves can take! "

I am so sorry you have to deal with this but you seem to be a strong woman! I know it's easy to say give it all to him but it is hard, which is why you are an inspiration. You're doing everything the right way, so good for you! Don't take that smurf. I wish you and your family the best! Keep posted  

I will keep you and your family in my prayers. I was in a abusive relationship and it was the scariest thing to get out of. I know how you are feeling, but you will get through it. It may seem difficult at times but you will be okay.

Update!

I just got back from presenting myself and my daughter and proving that not only are we not missing, but that we are okay. I made a report about the abuse and everyone was so nice and got me in touch with a lawyer and even on the report put my address and phone numbers under "classified" and gave me his address so that I can press charges easier!

They questioned Novali and she did great. They asked if she wanted to see her "other dad" (I wanted to ask her before but was honestly too scared of what her answer might be) and she looked terrified and shook her head; "I don't want to see the bad one, ever! Please, don't make me see him!"

Now, I have to get in touch with a lawyer, but the one I know has his phone off, so I have to wait till this afternoon to call.

Bottom line: I'm safe, my daughter is safe and there is a record of the abuse and the attempted kidnapping and my daughter saying she not only wanted nothing to do with the bastard, but called him the bad guy.

Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" Update! I just got back from presenting myself and my daughter and proving that not only are we not ... [snip!] ... attempted kidnapping and my daughter saying she not only wanted nothing to do with the bastard, but called him the bad guy.

I'm so glad to hear this. That sounds ereally good! I've been thinking about you and I"m glad there is some movement in a positive direction for you. You and Novali deserve the best!

Quoting she nan igans:" I'm so glad to hear this. That sounds ereally good! I've been thinking about you and I"m glad there is some movement in a positive direction for you. You and Novali deserve the best! "

Thank you! I'll update again after I talk to the lawyer!

Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" Update! I just got back from presenting myself and my daughter and proving that not only are we not ... [snip!] ... attempted kidnapping and my daughter saying she not only wanted nothing to do with the bastard, but called him the bad guy. "

So good to hear!