Is it possible?

I know I know, probably a dumb stupid question but everyone has a different answer I'm sure. But what I wanted to know was is it possible to fall in love with someone else while youre with someone? Back story here...me and SO have been together almost 5 yrs. A lot of arguing back and forth and lately just doesnt feel like its a relationship anymore.Like about 2 weeks ago I found something on his fb that shouldnt have been said between him and someone else. He pretty much said I cant do anything right when it comes to sexual smurf. Now I know thats a lie because when we did do things, he squirmed like crazy. Hasnt really felt like we're together for a long time now
Now back to my question, is it possible? Thanks mamas, been awhile since I last was here  
Oh btw he even said in the fb message he was thinking about cheating. What a winner right?

People fall in love with some one else while already in a relationship all the time. Is it right, no. But it does happen.

Yes it's possible. Regardless if he's doing these things you probably should re-think your relationship.

...and why are you still with him? But yes it is possible to answer your question

Yes. I think it's completely possible.

Idk I guess there is still some love there for him. He claims he wants to work it out but he really hasnt been trying that hard honestly. Still always seems to have an attitude with me for no reason at all. Ive told him to leave several times dont get me wrong.

<blockquote><b>Quoting No BOOBies McGee:</b>" Idk I guess there is still some love there for him. He claims he wants to work it out but he really hasnt ... [snip!] ... Still always seems to have an attitude with me for no reason at all. Ive told him to leave several times dont get me wrong."</blockquote>


I don't want this to come off as "rude" or anything so my apologies if it does...

You say "I've told him to leave several times don't get me wrong...", so is he just not leaving or are you changing your mind and allowing him to stay? The thing is, if you let him get away with it, he's going to keep doing it. He says he wants to work or out because that gives you hope and he knows that as long as he keeps your hopes up he can continue doing what he wants and treating you like crap... Because if he "wants to work it out", you'll keep him around. He'll keep having sex with you and then turn around and continue to trash talk you and treat you badly. It's not going to stop unless you make it stop. Period.

Quoting Lovelyyy KD*:" <blockquote><b>Quoting No BOOBies McGee:</b>" Idk I guess there is still some love ... [snip!] ... then turn around and continue to trash talk you and treat you badly. It's not going to stop unless you make it stop. Period."

Its not that I tell him to stay, I never do. He stays himself, I dont even hint at him staying. And we havent had sex in over 2 months. And you didnt come off as rude at all  

<blockquote><b>Quoting No BOOBies McGee:</b>" Its not that I tell him to stay, I never do. He stays himself, I dont even hint at him staying. And we havent had sex in over 2 months. And you didnt come off as rude at all  "</blockquote>




Good, I wasn't trying to. I've just been in a similar position. Your best bet is to just get out before it gets worse