What would you do?

My whole life I've wanted children, I would like four, but at least one or two more. I have a baby with my SO, and I want more but he doesn't. I don't want more for another 3-4 years, but he is very adamant about not having anymore, ever. He has even talked about getting snipped. I love him, but I would love a brother or sister for my son. Would you stay with him?

No. That would be a deal breaker for me.

<blockquote><b>Quoting jewelz156:</b>" My whole life I've wanted children, I would like four, but at least one or two more. I have a baby with ... [snip!] ... has even talked about getting snipped. I love him, but I would love a brother or sister for my son. Would you stay with him? "</blockquote>




Did you know this whenever you guys got together? Maybe with time he will change his mind.

It would depend, honestly. My child wants a sibling so it would be a deal breaker for me. If my son didnt want a sibling, I'd give the idea more thought

Your baby was just born last month... Seriously, give him time.

If you have to compromise something that big, no I would not stay. It will end in one of you resenting the other.

<blockquote><b>Quoting jewelz156:</b>" My whole life I've wanted children, I would like four, but at least one or two more. I have a baby with ... [snip!] ... has even talked about getting snipped. I love him, but I would love a brother or sister for my son. Would you stay with him? "</blockquote>


No I wouldn't.

Quoting ღ mj's mama:" <blockquote><b>Quoting jewelz156:</b>" My whole life I've wanted children, I would ... [snip!] ... with him? "</blockquote> Did you know this whenever you guys got together? Maybe with time he will change his mind."

When we got together he wanted a big family...our baby is 6 weeks and now he doesn't. I think because our baby is so fussy, it made him change his mind. He brings it up out of no where that he doesn't want more kids, and recently that he is going to get snipped. Idk to do....

I would give him time. Only because up until DS was 6 months old, I was 100% sure I would never have another baby. I had a terrible pregnancy, terrible delivery, and terrible first 6 months. DH wanted more, but for me he was going to get fixed to avoid me having to go through anything like that again. Now, DS is 10 months old.. and if I wasn't in nursing school, I would be TTC like now! Lol. Now, if he didn't change his mind in time, and you know you want another one, and are willing to give up your relationship, then leave.

Quoting jewelz156:" When we got together he wanted a big family...our baby is 6 weeks and now he doesn't. I think because ... [snip!] ... He brings it up out of no where that he doesn't want more kids, and recently that he is going to get snipped. Idk to do...."

Your son is ONLY 6 weeks old. I would give him time and stop pressuring him into it. Wait until your son is a year old, THEN bring it up. Who knows, by that time he might bring it up. You pressuring him isn't helping anything at all.

Quoting ღ mj's mama:" Your son is ONLY 6 weeks old. I would give him time and stop pressuring him into it. Wait until your ... [snip!] ... a year old, THEN bring it up. Who knows, by that time he might bring it up. You pressuring him isn't helping anything at all."

Pressuring him? I haven't even brought it up once.....he says it out of no where....like i said before.

Quoting jewelz156:" Pressuring him? I haven't even brought it up once.....he says it out of no where....like i said before."

Oh, sorry. Missed that part. I'd still give him time though, your baby is super young still. He's probably overwhelmed. I remember BD saying he never wanted any more kids after our daughter (I brought it up ONE time when she was a month), then he finally came around and wanted another. But were not together anymore, so that won't be happening.

Quoting jewelz156:" When we got together he wanted a big family...our baby is 6 weeks and now he doesn't. I think because ... [snip!] ... He brings it up out of no where that he doesn't want more kids, and recently that he is going to get snipped. Idk to do...."

Usually people tend to end up with less then they say before they have the kids. the realities of parenting set in and all. You have to think how worth much worth it is to you. He might change his mind in a few years anyway.