re: Birth rape

i think you should be grateful that u have a healthy bubs the doctors and nurses can't seem to win they do what they need to do to make childbirth safe for the mother and baby if they do something wrong they could be sued especially if it ends in a death i think they have the hardest job in the world i understand that they did something against your wishes but at the end of the day they did it for a reason i dont think any mother in labour has a right to argue with a doctor or nurse because and the end of the day they have more knowledge i say let them do what they need to do the most important thing is you both came out alive and healthy

wow, just


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This isn't the most appropriate section for this post. You got a healthy baby out of the deal at least he didn't die. You may be suffering but what about all those people out there who don't get to come home with a baby? Or a baby that has all sorts of problems?

Quoting Natural Goddess Mommy:" I'm pissed because they forced an episiotomy without explaining, I didn't even know she cut me til she ... [snip!] ... that's why I'm pissed. You really can;t understand why a bad birth experience such as that would cause me to feel traumatized?"

I have NOTHING negative to say, because no one experienced your birth besides you, but after being an attendee for many births, I just wanted to say the reason they gave you a catheter (they should have told you first, obviously) was not so you didn't pee yourself, but if you deliver with a full bladder it can cause physical trauma to you.

Quoting EBF*JB:" I have NOTHING negative to say, because no one experienced your birth besides you, but after being an ... [snip!] ... obviously) was not so you didn't pee yourself, but if you deliver with a full bladder it can cause physical trauma to you."

 
And quick question...she said that the magnesium made her blood pressure spike and all that ... isn't that suppose to stop it from spiking? I was wondering because that is what they gave me when I was induced for sever pre-e...which is high blood pressure...

Quoting *B & D Mommy*:"   And quick question...she said that the magnesium made her blood pressure spike and all that ... ... [snip!] ... spiking? I was wondering because that is what they gave me when I was induced for sever pre-e...which is high blood pressure..."

If you have low magnesium levels you are more prone to high blood pressure issues. Giving magnesium is for lowering blood pressure. I don't find any link between giving her magnesium and raising her blood pressure.
She didn't see a Midwife or OB-GYN during her pregnancy, so there's really no telling if there were underlying issues.
I do have confidence that she was well educated and prepared, but midwives and medial professionals do go through extensive years of schooling for a purpose.
Also, since she has previously stated before that she hates hospitals, being in one when she was so set on having a home UC birth, could be reason enough for high blood pressure.

Quoting HopingforaMiracle:" This isn't the most appropriate section for this post. You got a healthy baby out of the deal at least ... [snip!] ... but what about all those people out there who don't get to come home with a baby? Or a baby that has all sorts of problems?"

 

I don't think this really describes "birth rape..." Suppose you could go back in time and they didn't do anything they did, do you think you and your child would still be healthy?

I'm sorry it's traumatized you, but sometimes things need to happen regardless to ensure a safe delivery. It hardly seems fair a hospital can be sued because you said no to something you didn't even understand.

Eh, good luck... but you need to do more research. One of the woman in this thread gave you some good, valuable information, and you cant disregard it just because it doesn't help your "case" any.

I'm sorry this happened to you momma... I definitely think I had things done to me that weren't wanted nor necessary.   I am terrified to give birth in a hospital again. T_T

It sounds to me you are disappointed you didn't have your unassisted home birth and are looking for something to be upset about. No one forced you to go to the hospital. You did that because you didn't want your mom to be mad? So be mad at yourself or your mom, not the doctors who did what they needed to do.