christmas this year.. how do i deal..

ok so i am engaged to an amazing man who i amm having a baby boy with, this is his first my 3... christmas is coming up and he lost his mom on christmas day last year. i never met her i met y fiance jan 6 so 2 weeks after her passing. the first night him and i hung out we watched the last song and he was balling (his mama died of lung cancer)..i called a psychic and did a reading on him and i and the psychic said i would be having a baby ( which a found out days later i was pregnant but it ended in losing the baby) anyways we talked about the loss of his mom and what not, anyways he ended up going to jail for a few days a week later and thats when i miscarried... then he was out for a few months and went back for 4 months while he was in jail the 4 months she came to me in my sleep, and i had only had my gma come to me in my sleep before. it was kind og a shock cause i didnt know her but i woke up and it felt so smurfing real so i told his 2 sisters and then told him that day when i went to see him what his mom said in my sleep... anysways its a long long long story for the last 11 months and needless to say i did not meet her but i feel like i have a connection with her and when my fiance hurts and crys from her passing i do as well... this is his and his sisters first holidays without her and im trying to fly his little sister out for christmas to spend with us, but since this isnt "my loss" im not quit siye how to deal with this or how to go about it... i know i must be the absolute best support i can be which i do anyways and i always try to underswtand even his worst moods i love the man and his family but any advice? i have never dealt with anything close to this...

my dad died last year. Just be there for him but not in his face too much. Let him know he can talk to you about it if he wants but don't force it. I would let him and his sisters decide how they want to do things for the holiday (such as Christmas dinner or whatnot). Let them know you will help with what ever they want you to.

Quoting I'm me:" my dad died last year. Just be there for him but not in his face too much. Let him know he can talk to ... [snip!] ... do things for the holiday (such as Christmas dinner or whatnot). Let them know you will help with what ever they want you to."

thats good advice only issue is my SO is not so good at planningg so id have to plan with him and his little sis lisa...lol