Quoting kyannasaurus:" Would he consider individual and family therapy or counselling? What about you? Maybe if he sees how ... [snip!] ... how willing you are to work on your relationship and be together as a family he'll take serious steps to work on himself too. "
I have told him so many times that I think we need marriage counseling because right now what we have been doing is not working so we need something different, he says he doesn't need a counseling and when we've argued before he has even said to me maybe I am the one who needs a counselor
I have told him many times that I want to be here, I want us as a family together and happy and how I see us happier but we need to put in some real work, etc, etc. I have told him things that I wish he would change for 1, trust me and don't question me and accuse me of smurf all the time 2, quit smoking pot! I smurfing hate this mainly because the smell, but he wasn't working until recently and I told him he needed to get a job and with jobs come drug tests, so he found a job where he didn't have to be tested and continues! and a few other minor things but he says I am the one who stays the same and I am the one who doesn't change. His issue with me is I am not affectionate towards him and I try to tell him it's hard to be affectionate when someone is always questioning me and telling me they don't want to be with me. But yes, I am willing to do counseling.