Quoting ag iompar clainne (18w):" <blockquote><b>Quoting Safka9973:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting MysticWitchKat:</b>" ... [snip!] ... great exception to her judging others based on it. Which is what her first several posts did until she started to backtrack."
Trust me, I haven't backtracked. And I have never condemned or judged anyone based on their choosing to participate in threesomes or not. My best local friend has participated in one, and it has never had the least amount of effect on our relationship. Do I think it's ever wise to participate recreationally in a threesome? No, but I don't condemn those who do. To condemn them would be to condemn myself with the multitude of things I've done that I'm not proud of. Bottom line is this: we ALL choose to do immoral things from time to time in our lives. Whether it's speeding when the law states the acceptable range, sneaking answers off our neighbor's test, littering, loosing our temper at our kids or friends, lying to our parents as minors, calling in "sick" at work, or one of millions of other offenses...we all do things which fall under the immoral category. Yes, I think threesomes are one of those things which fall under that category, and I also think the same of premarital sex. However, I've had sex quite a few times and not been married. I don't condemn anyone who chooses to participate, even though I don't think it's wise, it's their choice. Another example of differing opinions being okay lies in the fact that I choose to spank my children. There are many people both on BG and all around me (my ex's fiance for example) who think that spanking a child for any reason is an immoral choice, and is plain and simple child abuse. Most people are reasonable and tell me that they think what I'm doing is wrong, and why they feel that way, and leave it at that. Every so often you'll hear of someone calling CPS or the cops over a simple spanking. I'm okay with people voicing their opinion and telling me why they believe what I do is wrong. However, it's when they blow it out of proportion and have a panic attack that the situation becomes unacceptable. It is okay and extremely healthy for people to have differing opinions of what's right, and what's not. I'm not up on my high horse saying "You people should all be struck by lightening for doing ________." If I were to ever do that, you can sure bet that I'd be right there with everyone else sizzling with them. I do not think I'm better than anyone else, or worse than anyone else. I do have different opinions and beliefs, and consider myself to be a very tolerant and nonjudgmental person. Our opinions and backgrounds make each of us unique, and with a few exceptions, should be accepted (not necessarily agreed with) not attacked by those around us. (Obviously, things like arbitrary murder, extreme abuse, etc...should be addressed, not just tolerated ) I don't mandate that others live by what I strive for. To do so would be far overstepping my boundaries. However, I do have opinions, which like I stated earlier, I generally keep to myself unless I'm around those who are discussing it.