Toddler acting up bc of divorce.

My husband cheated on me Saturday night, and told me Sunday. We are now getting a divorce. My DD is 3 1/2 and she has a good idea whats going on. We dont fight in front of her. But shes noticed mommy doesnt kiss daddy. Mommy sleeps in the spare room not with daddy. And yesterday she peed her pants 2 times. Today she smurf her pants. Shes been potty trained since she was 2 and hasnt had an accident for a year now. And its not an accident.. She will just stand there.and pee or poop. I kbow shes acting out for attention or something. What can I do??  

Quoting Kylie's Mommy ♥:" My husband cheated on me Saturday night, and told me Sunday. We are now getting a divorce. My DD is 3 ... [snip!] ... an accident.. She will just stand there.and pee or poop. I kbow shes acting out for attention or something. What can I do??  "

Try to reassure her that you both love her, and that nothing that is going on is her fault. I'm not going through the same thing, but my son is "regressing" due to the new baby coming. I think it's just insecurity about the changes that are coming. If you can make her feel as secure as possible, it might go away quicker. My son is almost 5 and has decided that he wants to play with baby items and pacifiers. I am doing my best to let him know he is my special big boy. I am sorry that you are having to go through all of this.

Give her all the positive attention you can.

Give her attention. If she's acting out because of you guys separating then she's probably really confused and wants to make sure that everything's going to be okay and that you guys still love her. So just give her extra hugs, hold her today and tell her how much you love her etc.

Im a nanny. So she gets to come to work with me. I spend time with her all day. I sit and play with her, hold her. I think shes acting out for her dad. He use to spend lots of time with her.. But now he doesnt. I,hooe she knows we love her. This is so hard on us both

sorry you are having to go through this, but I agree with everyone else. she is just wanting reasurance that you both still love her. try to keep her routine the same(as much as what you can). maybe talk with her dad and let him know you think he needs to be spending more time with her too. Im sure communication with her dad is difficult right now and probabley will be for some time but as parents you need to be communicating about the child. also, discussing her daily activities outbursts and such with dad infront of child is a good idea too; this helps prevent the child from "playing the parents against eachother" ( which may not be an issue now but generally comes up as the child ages.) hope things get better soon, best of luck to ya!