Talking to a teen mom

What advice would you give to a teen who just found out she is pregnant?

Would you suggest abortion? Adoption? Keeping it?

How would you convince them?
If they insisted on keeping it, what would be your best advice for them?

Also, were YOU a teen mom yourself, and is that how you came to your answers?

Just curious  

I'd give them all of their options and tell them realistically what to expect. You can't try to convince them to go a certain way, that has to be up to them to decide. The best you can do is give them as much info as you can to help them make an informed decision.

i would suggest they look into every option.. the pros and cons to each.. maybe even before they tell their parents so they can have some sort of game plan to set on the table and not seem to clueless about the situation. i wouldnt convince them of anything... i would explain to them what each option may be like but not push them into anything.

just listen to them, don't judge because there is no such thing as a teen mom either your a mom or your not. if it's someone you care about you don't want to push them away because you have different views.

Id tell them its going to be alot harder than they think.
I would only tlak to them about it if they were seeking advice. id tell them about different options and if they decided they wanted to keep it, and tell them about WIC and graduating early if possible and that sort of stuff.


i technically was a teen mom, pregnant at 18 had her at 19 but i was granduated in my own apartment.

I wouldn't tell them what to do, I would just talk to them about each option and how it may effect them and the people around them, and offer them my ear so they could talk through it.

Find a good support system, finish school, be the best mom you can. Also don't pawn your baby off on your parents all the time. Abortion, adoption.... its all up to you. Yes I had my 2nd baby when I was 17

I thought to myself. Am I willing to give up my teenage time? Can I take care of it? Will I have people there to help me?

All of the answers were yes. I had family that helped me out so much. If I wouldnt have had them then I would have went the adoption way. I never once thought of aborting.

That its a lot harder then you could ever imagine. You lose friends and you lose freedom when it comes to going out all the time. You'll responsibilities triple and you'll feel 40 by the time you're 20.
I wouldn't try to convince them though that adoption or abortion is one of the paths they should take. Even though its really hard at times, I never regret my daughter or the choices I made. If you have to talk someone into making one of those decesions they'll probably regret it later.


I'm not a teen mom so my answer was set on keeping her as soon as I found out.

I wouldn't try to change her mind if she had already made a choice. If she wants to keep the baby and you convince her to get an abortion/do adoption, that's something her could regret for the rest of her life. Same with if she has chosen abortion and you persuade her to keep the baby, she might resent the child his/her whole life. I would just be supportive of whatever choice she makes, and talk to her about things like the benefits of breastfeeding and cloth vs disposable diapers(if she decides to keep it.)

Well I would give her all the options but I would tell her being a mom is hard but she can make it through cause everyone does! Let her know adoption and abortion could hurt her mentally. And if your there for her,let her know that too!
I had my baby at 15 and ill be. 17 just 16 days after he's 1 and he's the best things that's ever happened to me. I stress and I cry but I wouldn't change anything for the world! And I been completely on my own for about 3 months.

I would listen to them and what they are feeling and thinking and then i would tell them about my experiences (had my first at 16). i would tell them its harder than babysitting but its also the most rewarding thing in your life, but if they are not ready for that step there is nothing wrong with that and to look at all the options

I wasn't/am not a teen mom but here's my opinion:

What advice would you give to a teen who just found out she is pregnant?
My advice would be to speak to your parents ASAP and let them know you're pregnant so you could seek medical care. If they don't have parents or whatever their situation is I would suggest speaking to the adult they trust the most and have a good relationship with.

Would you suggest abortion? Adoption? Keeping it?
It depends on the teen and their situation. I personally, would never suggest abortion. If that's would they chose to do then that's their decision/right. If they have stable family enviroment and parents that would be there for them and their child then I would suggest to keep it. If they have a crappy environment and have nobody to help them and they absolutely don't want a baby mabye adoption would be best for them.

How would you convince them?
I would just explain to them the pro's and con's and try to make them think about their future and how this would impact it.

If they insisted on keeping it, what would be your best advice for them?
My advice would be to understand that their life is going to change drastically and they are going to have to put the needs of their child first. They also must reach out to somebody as a support system. They are going to need that support throughout the pregnancy and after the baby comes.

I was definitely an OLDER 'teen mom', pregnant at 18 and had my son at 19. But I definitely FELT like a teen. I had the mindset of a teen, I was acting like a teen... I was just a baby. I didn't realize that at the time, but now looking back I definitely see it. I am now almost 23 with a 3 year old, and feel like I am just now really understanding how greatly having a baby so young effected my life. Some days I feel like I'm STILL too young to be a mom! lol

I couldn't decide whether to have an abortion, or to keep the baby, when I was pregnant. I could NOT for the life of me decide. I was too young to make that decision. And that was my decision. I couldn't make up my mind or wrap my head around the possibilities or options, so that made my decision for me.

When I found out I was pregnant at 17, the nurse that ran the tests was literally shoving the abortion option down my throat telling me my life was over, etc. etc. If I would had listened to her, it would had been the worse decision of my life. My daughter is what got me to the succesful place I am now. So I would just hear her story and work from there. I'll let her know her options. I'll express what I think it's best and let her decide but I would never try to convince her to take any choice. I'll let her think about it, decide her self and support her the best possible way I can.