Quoting Converse360:" Thank you all,also, for posting! LuvinmyMason-- I feel the exact same way you do. I'm really glad that ... [snip!] ... I certainly didn't suggest that he didn't. I agreed that it wasn't something he should feel obligated to do. And I meant that."
I'm going to copy a few things you said....
"He didn't call for two days (he's not required to
) and on Saturday his BM called and demanded to know why. She grilled him & afterwards put their son on the phone. I told him that she's using him calling to control him and he shouldn't call everyday he doesn't have him because she expects it and I think its more for her than for the kid."
Kay, for one, it's NONE OF YOUR DAMN BUSINESS. For you to say "I think it's more for her than the kid," well get bent chick, whether he is REQUIRED to call his child or not, he should WANT to. I'd want to know why the father of my child wasn't calling to see how my child was too. I'm sorry but if parents are split I think it's the obligation of the other parent to call every day and at least ask how they are doing and do a small talk and not be clueless as to whats going on with the child.
"Do you think that's wrong of me? I hate his BM because of how she acted the first year we were together. I think that his son knows he loves him, he shouldn't have to call everyday. I voiced this to him & he said he doesn't know, will work on it. What do you think?
Thank you for reading this long post & posting your replies:-)"
What do I think? I think you shouldn't have a damn voice in the matter. If he loved him, he'd be calling him. He doesn't need to have the brat he calls his SO say "Oh but he knows you love him.... you don't have to call!!!!" If your SO said "I don't know, I will work on it" makes me think he wants to call but doesn't want to hear what will come from your trap. Seriously, answer me this, why shouldnt he call every day? What hurt comes from calling his child every day?
"Froggy'sMommy- I didn't tell him not to call everyday. He was completely pissed when she called & interrupted our time together
. I guess I should say I re-affirmed that he didn't have to call everyday
. I certainly didn't suggest that he didn't. I agreed that it wasn't something he should feel obligated to do
. And I meant that."
Awwwww.... how sad..... his ex wants him to be involved with his child and it interrupts a precious 5 minutes out of your time. If he didnt discontinue calling for 2 days she wouldnt have to call. You don't need to reaffirm ANYTHING. You don't need to say ANYTHING about him feeling obligated to call.
It is none of your business. Not your say at all. You honestly should shut your trap because it is not for you to say.
And your SO should pick up the phone and talk to his child.